u/Virtuosity_points

Bought a house ten years ago by myself and just went with the same solicitors practice my parents had used & I liked the lady I dealt with. She has since moved on and my husband and I are looking to sell this house and to buy in a town 45 mins away. Does it matter much if we keep with the same solicitors practice or use a different one here, or in the new town we'd be living in? Hoping for a smooth enough sale/purchase as we've young kids but really don't understand much about the whole process. Apparently the practice I dealt with before is known as being a bit more expensive than most. Would there be fees to transfer files/deeds etc to a new practice?

My baby was referred to opthalmology for one eye slightly turning in at times. It wasn't my usual GP and I got a bit bamboozled when he mentioned going public or private. It's actually the same consultant here for both, and the GP seemed to think we wouldn't be waiting too long so I agreed to a public referral. When I looked into it, the waiting list is 18 months which I'm not willing to wait. The practice sent in a private referral when I rang back, and appointment will be in a few weeks.

However a friend told me to keep in the public system too because if my child ends up needing glasses, they'd be covered if public, as well as a block of appointments that her child needed (maybe mine won't need either). I was going to ask the doctor about it all when we go, but today I got a letter from the HSE asking if we still want to remain on their waiting list, and the date theh need to know by is just before the private appointment.

Does anyone have experience with this? I'm grateful we can afford private health insurance but it doesn't cover all that much & we're not flush with cash. I'm sure glasses could get expensive long term.

I recently started medication and haven't seen much progress yet.

I'm curious about other people's experiences with parenting & housework. I am on maternity leave with second baby & also have a 3 year old. My husband and I decided last summer to get a cleaner once a fortnight, as it really stresses me out trying to keep the house in order. I find i still really struggle though, just getting the house somewhat presentable so that it can actually be cleaned takes a lot of effort. I know part of it is that we have very little free time now, and our two little humans have a lot of stuff & generate a lot of mess. I don't think my husband has ADHD but the clutter really gets in on him sometimes too, but not to the level it does for me. If something really bothered him (like kitchen floor right now as baby is weaning) , he'd tackle it, whereas I'd feel paralysed about it & then ashamed. I keep meaning to start a toy rotation for the toddler's stuff but havent gotten around to trying. I actually thought the chaos of kids wouldn't bother me as my bedroom as a child was always like an absolute pigsty, but turns out it does!

My sister hasn't been diagnosed with ADHD but she thinks she has it and first put it in my head. I'm now convinced she does as well but this particular area isn't an issue for her at all. Her house is really clean, tidy & organised at all times. Maybe to an extreme. ​

Any tips for managing with young kids?!