I feel pathetic for staying
First off, I’ve come to this thread before for hope and inspiration but have never posted. Thank you to all who share your journeys, your perspectives and support. ❤️
We’ve been together for 20years and there’s been 3 situations (one full blown affair 10years ago). Most recently I discovered a texting thread and my wife was slow to shut it down, needed closure, said nothing would have happened between her and the guy. The texting was about her needing an escape, a rush and she doesn’t even like the guy.
We have kids.
We’ve healed from worse in the past.
Part of me feels pathetic staying with her and loving her. Listening to her process and deal with her stuff.
If I continue to stay, I am signing up to be hurt again. And probably again.
She said tonight “I get it! You want me to care more about us and I need you to care less about us.”
I don’t even know what I’m looking for from this post just needed to get it out. Laying in bed at 3am, can’t sleep.