I have been struggling with my marriage lately. We have been married for a couple of years but have been together for almost a decade. We’ve overcome quite a bit together but lately I just feel so disconnected.
My partner m27 is in med school and has pushed taking his step 1 several times. We’re at a point where if he pushes this exam any longer, it will add another year to this long path. It’s hard. I get it. What I don’t get is not prioritizing this exam and continuously pushing it, getting stressed out and letting it all out on me.
I’m constantly asked to help him focus. So sometimes I question when he’s clearly distracted. Today I questioned why he was playing video games in the middle of the day and was cussed and told to shut up because “I distracted him” and he lost the match. We’ve been fighting for months now about this one stupid game. He refuses to give it up.
I’m just so tired of dealing with this immaturity. I’m just continuously confused. He’s my best friend and I love him. He’s so good in certain things but when it comes to responsibility, having straight priorities and managing his frustration and not disrespecting me when he’s upset… he’s very bad at it and it gets ugly sometimes.
I don’t know how much more of “med school is stressful” I can take for this behavior.