My 2 setups in a tiny studio apartment lol. We actually have 3 setups… tho the one of my boyfriend is super unclean 🙄.
First setup is basically the main setup (Apple).
Second setup is my gaming setup (Windows).
I still need to figure out how to set up my Series S on the Win’s setup. The PS5, steam deck and Black Xbox is on my BF’s desk !
Not a trap question btw, im trans and I want to know how to navigate relationships.
Question:
Would you consider the following transphobic:
You are dating a person and you feel more comfortable in a certain “social image” of your gender, you assume who you are and your preferences… But the person you date refuse to treat you with “feminine social standards” or “masculine ones” toward you because either “You were not born this way, so why would I?” Or more cunningly because “Genders are just a concept”…?
Follow up question for the last one:
Is “Genders are made-up” use to invalidate people preferences on how to be treated, gender-wise? Or is it more to make a point and stop enforcing that in movies, shows, ect.
Like for example conservatives who believe that their interpersonal relationships are under attack, is that their own insecurities or we genuinely try to go in peoples homes with laws and whatever to make everyone comply?
Context:
I ask because I think I am dating someone a bit uneducated around gender issues, they portray themselves as wanting to hold me like a traditional feminine person while he plays the more traditional masculine one… But there is always these debates of “Do we even have the RIGHT to be this way, is it legal?” And im like 🥲..?!
That person at first was invalidating my femininity by saying “Well, I didn’t knew you were like that before your transition” (mind you, we dated after my transition, a whole year after… so I pointed it out and “ok… my bad”) but now it turned into “weaponized progressive language”?!
And its confusing because I see a lot of psychology content where, no, in relationships, even gay/lesbian ones… there is virtually always a balance of roles. But my partner keeps debating that over and over again lol.
To a point where I just end up believing the guy is just hella insecure with his own self proclaimed role 🥲 !!
Outro:
Am I in the wrong for wanting to be treated a certain way? The way that genuinely makes me happy?…
I feel like he just falls in the category of conservative guys who’s like “Oh, we’re woke now? Let me show you how much of a poor man I am and I am oppressed by women, let’s see if you love equality now 😈” That feels weaponized af !
Like “You want our children to learn equality, ok let’s break this relationship apart and see if equality feels good here !”.
So now im lost, was progress meant to be educative or to be enforced?
There is a real rise of guys who play games with that in relationships… is it games? Or them finally having standards?
Fxck its so confusing 😭 !