Are threesomes marriage ruiners?
Longish post but, anyone with experience, is a threesome always a marriage ruiner? I’ve always assumed it was something that would ruin a good thing. I’m 30, I’ve been with my husband since I was 19. We’ve got two kids and are super happy together. Recently learning that I’m bi? I guess I’m just slow because i don’t know how it took this long. I’ve literally been with women numerous times before but I guess never really felt like I was since I’ve only ever dated men. I’ve always been a very private person I guess and finally just told my husband about it recently and (of course after getting the details) was like so you’re bi? And I was adamant I wasn’t until after talking and coming to the realization I guess I am. He doesn’t care, clearly is having some thoughts now, but isn’t trying to force anything or pressure me in to anything at all. He told me he would never ask for a threesome but would be absolutely fine if I wanted to try something (what man isn’t fine with that I guess) like that. At first it was a hard no and he hadn’t asked again and said that’s fine because I was enough for him, but now that I guess I’ve come to terms with everything I am kind of wanting to. I’m really just concerned about ruining a good thing, and also how do you find a third? Like we’ve been together almost 12 years and I’m beyond happy. If you’ve been in a long term relationship and tried this after being just you two for a long time, how did it work out for you??