New Body. Dead Bedroom.
Hello all, hopefully someone can help me here.
Over the past few years I have changed my diet and exercise to an extreme degree. I have gone from 340lbs to just over 200lbs in good shape. I am six foot one inch tall. What has me confused is my wife's interest in me physically seems to have only decreased to the point we are barely ever intimate. When I was heavy, it was probably 2/3 times a week. It is now once every few months.
For some background info, we are both in our mid 30s. We have been together 14 years, married for ten. We have three kids but our last child was born five years ago so this is not a postpartum connection. Honestly, postpartum never had an impact on our sex life beyond the medically necessary time period. I was also in pretty good shape when we first got together, so this is also not a case of me always being big and that being her type. She was definitely a fan of me back then. Honestly at a loss as I had assumed the opposite would be the case once I lost weight and got in shape.
Maybe I am missing something. Please let me know your thoughts.
**EDIT**
I have spoken to her about this. Pulled from a response to a comment: She said the usual stuff like things have been tiring lately and everything is okay, or she does the very frustrating playful/flirty thing in response but brick walls me as soon as I start making it known I am into it.
She seems very comfortable alluding to getting intimate, but never actually moves past the flirting phase.