AITA for not allowing my daughter to go to UC Santa Cruz?
My daughter has been wanting to go to UC Santa Cruz or UC Davis.
She’s smart, beautiful, social, but she’s a procrastinator and doesn’t communicate well with us. My wife and I told her that she can go to UC Davis if she got in, but she got waitlisted. She got into UC Santa Cruz and she wants to go, but we can’t afford it and we don’t trust her to go so she has to go to the local csu.
She told us she understood the situation and will commit to the local csu because that’s what we asked of her, but i can tell she’s not happy.
We’re low-income, we have 8 kids, and we live in a small house. My 5 older kids have gone to this local csu due to us being low-income and the aid giving them 3k a semester. With aid, my daughter is paying around 7k per year after grants for ucsc.
My wife and I are afraid of her becoming a failure, we are very worried about her future and we don’t want her to graduate in debt. We are stressed out, my daughter has been crying, and I would let her take the CC + TAG route because she has mentioned it to me but I think it’s an unstable path. I told her she should just suck it up though because Sac State isn’t a bad school. What is her deal with crying you know?
What should I do?
Am i in the wrong?