u/TrogdorUnofficial

I’m going to be cautious to not dox myself, but here’s the basics:

I live with severe trauma - mental and physical - from service in the ADF.

My ex (de facto), who I have a child with, was emotionally, financially, and psychologically harmful to me during our relationship which ended in 2023.

We’ve just finished property settlement and she’s taken most of my remaining compensation from Defence, which was supposed to compensate for my injuries and let me have something to live off for the rest of my life. I have no capacity to work full time. She has a qualification that I helped her get, works in a stable job and has capacity to move up, get higher quals etc. she’s also repartnered and so has far lower future needs than I do.

That aside, because it’s all been settled in court, she perjured herself many times in her affidavits and court documents. Needless to say, the protracted legal process, the drain on my funds, and the ludicrous amounts
She demanded have exacerbated my health issues incredibly, to the point I thought about ending myself, which I haven’t done for years, and have only resisted because of my child.

In the discovery documents, it was also found that she was claiming single parenting payment when she was in a de facto relationship, and she and her parent have been in cahoots defrauding the ATO - the parent has a salary sacrifice novated lease, the ex has been the sole driver of the car since day 1, that was the plan.

Do I have any legal recourse for mental damages?

Is there any legal means to pursue on the perjury, Centrelink fraud and ATO fraud? Technically it’s her parent committing the tax fraud.

The latter issues might just be to get my own back and it would bring me some joy seeing her get a comeuppance.

I was in a role on probation. At the end of the probation period, I was removed from the job citing performance issues and lacking skills. No ROCs, no PDP, no NTSC. I reported to 2 O5s and an O6. As there’d been no PA for the entire time (12 months), there was no mentoring and no direction on how to improve. At that point I didn’t want to continue in the position, but I wanted to clear my name so I responded to the notice with many rebuttals. Those officers have been backed up by 2 reviews, 1 by a O5, then one by a 1-star. While they agree my complaints were not vexatious, they found no grounds for unacceptable behaviour. I cited leadership doctrine, ADF values, ethics, but they appear to be given no weight whatsoever. In civvie street, they’d be taken to fair work and found to be in the wrong. How can senior officers and star officers believe this is good people management and allow it to continue?