u/Trick_Vacation8422

I (16F), struggle with keeping track and managing my POTS. I’ve been debating between an oura ring and visible band for a while now. I love all the different reliable health features the oura ring has, something that stands out to me is when it predicts times you’ll be tired or stressed. Overall it seems smarter to me than the visible band. But then the visible band claims to be made for chronic illness and uses the spoon system which I really like so that way I know how much energy I have left to use. I’m super drawn and would love to hear some people who actually have pots opinions.

I, (16, F) got diagnosed with POTS the August before my sophomore year. It completely flipped my life upside down and has limited things I would normally do. When it’s bad, I can’t stand long enough to brush my teeth. I had to quit sports I’d done since I was 7. Since this diagnosis is so new and life changing, I talk about it quite a bit. Sometimes to vent, sometimes because it’s relevant in the conversation, and sometimes because somebody wants to do something but I’m not able to. I found out a few weeks ago my friend was talking shit on me saying I talk about it too much. Part of me is angry, because I’d love to trade places with her and see if she’d talk about something that changed her life this much. On the other hand, growing up I’ve always been an attention seeker, I was raised with a disabled brother, I was a glass child, I sook the attention I didn’t get at home. I’m wondering if maybe I’m just using this as a way to get more attention? Exaggerating my symptoms so I can have something special about me, maybe even giving myself the placebo effect. I asked a few other friends if they thought I talks about it too much, they all got quiet and gave vague answers. Obviously means they think I do. So the question is: am I an asshole for bringing it up all the time? And do I just start hiding my chronic illness?

Me and my bestfriend have been friends for around a year now. We both met during the lowest points of our lives in a mental health facility. We instantly got close and I’d never clicked with anyone like I clicked with her. Three months into our friendship, our other friend made this catfish account on Snapchat. As a joke, my bestfriend had her test her boyfriend. She was shocked when he sent a dick picture within 20 minutes of talking to the catfish. She showed up to his house and they broke up for a whopping 10 days. We went to hangout at our local carnival and last minute she asked me if he could come. I said sure because I’d never met him before, and I tried my hardest to be nice but I couldn’t help but make comments here and there. He was extremely sorry for cheating, got her and her mom flowers and everything. They seemed to be doing great. Months later, one of my friends texts me and asks a question about my bsfs boyfriend. She says he used to send dick pics to her while my bsf and her boyfriend were dating. My bsf confronts him, turns out, he’d been doing it for a while and would send tons of photos a week. Even while she was in treatment. I urged her to leave him but she wouldn’t. They’d been together for two years and it was too hard for her. He continuously apologized and said he hadn’t don’t it since. Come to find out, he did it again. And my friend still wouldn’t leave him. At this point, it’d come to my attention that he didn’t like me. Shocker. He disliked me because I disliked him. Which bothers me on multiple levels considering I’m not the one who hurt the girl he loves. Finally, my best friend builds up the confidence to break up with him. But she still doesn’t lose contact, she has him drive her to pick up vapes or ice cream. Weeks later, she’s back with him. He constantly manipulates her and convinces her she was overthinking and that’s what he tells his friends too. Girls in her friendgroup judge him for what he did to her and she is always upset and angry with them over that, while I think they SHOULD be judging him. I’m nervous she’s not growing as a person with him. And I think he takes away her self respect. I love her with all my heart, but part of me is angry at her for doing this to herself over and over again, she’s embarrassing herself and risking friendships over a manipulative man who can’t treat her right. She always gets upset with me when I bring it up. AITA?