Am I the jerk for not paying for my friend's Uber when she chose to get drunk?
I (28F) was designated driver for girls night. My friend Katie drank WAY too much and got sick in my car.
I'm talking vomit all over the back seat, floor mats, even got on the door. It was horrible.
I had to get my car professionally detailed - $300.
I asked Katie to split the cost with me since it was her mess. She said absolutely not, accidents happen when you drink.
I said you CHOSE to drink that much! I was being nice driving you! She says that's what friends do.
I said friends also take responsibility for damaging someone's property. She says I'm being petty over a little throw up.
A LITTLE?! My car reeked for days even after cleaning!
She's refusing to pay anything. Says if I didn't want to deal with drunk friends I shouldn't of volunteered to drive.
I told her fine, I'm never DD'ing for her again. She can pay for Ubers from now on.
She got mad saying I'm punishing her for one mistake and being a bad friend.
But why should I be out $300 for HER choices? I didn't force her to drink!
My boyfriend thinks I should just eat the cost to keep the peace. But $300 is alot of money!
Am I wrong for expecting her to contribute?
TL;DR: Friend got drunk and vomited in my car, I asked her to help pay $300 detailing cost, she refused and says I'm being petty.