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I am feeling so conflicted on if I stay w my current nanny family or not. I am honestly miserable just bc things have added up to make me frustrated (mostly pay related) and we have different styles/philosophies when it comes to raising kids. (I am more child led, Montessori, play based. They are almost completely opposite) I am wanting to leave and find a new position and have already started putting feelers out there.
BUT
My issue is I am in school and they are willing to work w my school schedule in the fall. (However I limited my classes to accommodate their schedule) regardless I am going to have to take more in person classes in the spring (beginning 2027) and will have to either do part time w them or leave anyway. Idk my schedule for spring classes yet. So my issue is do I just suck it up and suffer since they are going to work w my schedule???
MB is also due w second around then so worried it’ll be too big of a transition for NK if I leave and they have a new baby.

So a few weeks ago I discussed w DB wanting to switch to mileage reimbursement bc he originally asked me why I started using the gas card more. (Started using it maybe 2x a month versus only once a month before, bc it felt awkward and I would just use my own money for gas) I brought up the IRS rate and he said it seemed too expensive and felt it should be cheaper since I have a little car. He said they would discuss it and try to figure out something fair that covers wear and tear and gas. So today he finally came to me with a decision and honestly I am beyond frustrated. He said the IRS rate wasn’t realistic and was too expensive and he thinks it’s more of a corporate thing, I disagreed and told him it’s industry standard. I kept giving him info but he countered with saying they’d do a budget of $40 a month (barely even covers gas, if that). Said I could use MB car if anything but honestly I’m just not comfortable with it, plus she is always going and doing things like appointments, nails, etc, so realistically how would that work?? Plus wouldn’t I need to be on their insurance then? And wouldn’t that be MORE expensive?? I’m honestly frustrated bc I’m already at a lower rate with them. After a year they gave me a FORTY cent raise and they thought that was good. After I brought it up given my experience and normal nanny raises that this didn’t seem fair they rounded it to a whole dollar so now I’m at $21/hour 🥴 yet still can’t get paid my worth in gas either. (Given my experience and education this rate is already low for me, and was making $25 w last fam- before gaining my degree)

Honestly several things have built up and I just feel frustrated and burnt out after so long of not making my worth and working for WFH parents. I kind of jsut need validation that I’m not crazy and this is indeed not fair. Even though I know it’s not after extensive research. I think I may just stop taking NK anywhere and accept the fact we’ll be miserable