How do you handle when they're disrespectful but say it's because of something you did?
My wife has issues with emotional regulation. We're near a breaking point because of it.
As a recent example, I was recently studying for a midterm (I'm trying to go back to school since my career needed to take a hit to support hers, as her job advancement required us to move internationally twice and I couldn't work for over a year. If I said no to the moves, she would instantly divorce me. I insisted she seek counselling for these coercive tendencies and I thought her career advancement would change things, but it didn't seem to do much). She knew my midterm was the next day and that it was very important. Deapite this, she experienced one of her emotional episodes, said that I was not paying enough attention to the family and kicked me out of our work area, making me study on our bed. She continued crying and being upset about my focus being on the exam for the rest of the day.
Two weeks later, we spoke and I asked for an apology about the event. She rolled her eyes and said "I'm sorry". I was so hurt that I left the room. She followed and said that I interrupted her and that she was the one who was hurt. Then she said that she was going to give me an apology. A big part of was thinking "you had two weeks".
How do you manage when someone eye rolls when apologizing? And what if they then say "I would have" and puts it back on you? I feel like I just can't win and it's on me to be perfect to get a resolution.
Also, is this all just really wrong? I'm pretty depressed and can't imagine making it through life without her, and I worry that this attitude could be keeping me stuck.