WIBTAH if I contacted my freshly postpartum sister on my grandmother’s behalf?
I’m currently experiencing internal conflict on this because of the fact my sister (F27) is still in hospital, having had her baby two days ago.
For context:
My (F28) grandmother (68) is unwell, on medication and limited in her mobility. My sister is supposed to be her carer, but the reality is that she is always caring for my sister’s children (7 & 2).
She doesn’t tend to say “no” when she should because my sister has stopped her from seeing them as punishment in the past. My sister claims otherwise, but everyone else in the family knows she can be spiteful like this.
The actual issue is that my sister dropped the children off on Tuesday night, specifying that their Dad would collect them on Thursday afternoon if all went to plan.
The baby was born on Wednesday morning. My sister sent photos and selfies to everyone, saying all is well. I had received 20+ photos from her at 5 am yesterday. However, she hasn’t checked-in on her kids and their dad has not reached out either (which is bothering my grandmother).
My grandmother has been calling me numerous times over the past two days, sounding absolutely distressed about the younger child in particular. She has also said that she is not feeling well enough to keep watching them.
I told her to contact my sister if she doesn’t have their dad’s number (I don’t have it myself), and she said my sister hasn’t responded to a single message but is leaving her on read.
I don’t know if that means she is busy because she has been posting all over social media, sending selfies, and texting other relatives. It seems like she is specifically ignoring my grandmother.
Obviously, I don’t know what is going on at the hospital, the reason why the kids are still with my grandmother with no update on when they will be collected, and why my sister is not replying to messages…
But I am p*ssed about it.
I would love to know if I would be out-of-line to reach out on my grandmother’s behalf. I don’t know if it is rude to do with the timing… but I am more concerned about my grandmother than my sister at this point.
Not sure if I have forgotten anything. Will update if I have.
TIA!