My (29F) husband (35M) got me nothing for my birthday… again
So… today is my birthday and I was really looking forward to it. I have always valued birthdays and special occasions, for myself and others. I like to give thoughtful gifts or organise surprises to make someone feel special. My husband however has never made even the tiniest effort when it comes to my birthday, anniversaries, mothers day, etc. I have told him many, many times that I value those moments and I really find it important that some thought is put into these days.
I don’t want an expensive gift, a drawing from my children or a birthday card would be amazing too. For 8 years in a row my husband told me today it was an expensive month and he couldn’t afford a gift. So he did nothing and got me nothing… again. He didn’t even congratulate me when we woke up but waited until he took a shower and had breakfast to casually say “oh happy birthday btw”.
I feel like my feelings aren’t important, like he doesn’t care that I value my birthday when I have told him many times how important it is to me. I am embarrassed bc in my family birthdays are a big deal so for 8 years everyone has asked me very excited about what my husband did for my birthday, and its always nothing. Im fed up. Im hurt. I feel unimportant. How can I make my husband understand that I feel this way and how upset it has made me? I am running out of ways to explain it to him…..
TL;DR my husband got me nothing for my birthday again and I don’t know how to make him understand that this really hurts my feelings