Herpes
So I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, married for 9. I have been wanting a divorce for 4 years, but has been difficult given he keeps wanting to try and take my kids out of state and back to where we moved from,etc. well we got into an argument a few weeks ago and he comes up out of the blue and states that he has HSV-2. He has had HSV-2 apparently around 2-4 years before he and I had even gotten together. I asked if he can obtain that record of his positive test, but he claims he cannot remember the doctor he went to, to be able to get that record. I am appalled! He stated that he was hoping there would eventually be a cure and that he was waiting for the right time to tell me. I told him the right time would have been before we had sex and before we signed a marriage certificate. So I decided to get tested, because a little over a year ago I had some blisters that popped up on my side. Went to the doctor and they said it was shingles. Gave me meds(of which are the same meds they give you for HSV) and I isolated that area, etc. well it came back 4 times within a 6 month period. My doctor said that it may not be shingles, to come get the fluid in the blisters tested if I break out again. Well I never got any more blisters. Fast forward to now…. I get a pull std/sti panel from my doctor through a blood test and the test came back positive for HSV-2!!! I tell my husband while in tears and he tell me, “well you knew the risks of having sex” and “it’s not that bad to have it” etc… WTF!!! I married him and at that point I would have assumed that if you had some sort of disease or infection, etc, that you would tell your partner! He said he chose not to tell me, because he was afraid I’d leave him. So now I feel like I had been trapped into a relationship that I otherwise may not have stayed! I feel like I didn’t get a choice! We had a child together, and built a life out of lies! More lies than just this!!!! I’m curious how others would feel about this situation. I know I can sue for this, and definitely pushing for divorce now, and going to use this as leverage. If he doesn’t do this amicably, then I’m going to pursue charges….
With that, he has also left his 12 gauge shotgun on the floor where my daughter when she was 3 years old had grabbed it and walked across the house with it. He’s left his tobacco dip laying out and on the floor everywhere where my youngest has ingested it once when she was a baby crawling. Continues to pull the kids into our fights. He claims if we split that he will be going back to Oklahoma. And has recently stated he plans to take the kids with him, but that will be without consent from me. He also was an alcoholic for a year after I asked for a divorce and started to hide his liquor and drive my kids to dance class while intoxicated.(of course I had my friend intervene and pick my kids up from dance to bring them home)
We have lived in Colorado since July 2025. I was born and raised here. I moved to Oklahoma as a teenager and finally moved back home to CO last year.
Location: Colorado