u/Thick_Drink504

We all knew it was coming, but now it's here and I *didn't* "rise to the bait."

It had to be done. Mom requires 24/7 care. With Dad in the hospital/rehab, his in-home services were paused. That took the people with institutional knowledge of such things as "we can't use that pouch of instant potatoes, they're three years out of date" out of the rotation, so the potatoes et al got tossed and the kitchen set up like someone who lives there would set it up, instead of trying to navigate the mess made by dementia + eight years of every caregiver being allowed to do their own thing + Dad's pig-headedness.

He says they don't have anything to eat. They do. The fridge, cupboards, and pantry are what most people would consider very full. What they don't have are multiple open packages of the ready-to-eat snacks his doctor has told him to not eat.

He says that he can't eat any of the fruit they have. There were several varieties of fruit on hand, including a ready-to-eat fruit plate the caregivers bought when they did the shopping. He can't eat two of the berry varieties included in the fruit plate because the seeds get stuck in his dental work. Mom likes them and they're not an issue for her.

He says all of his candy was thrown away. It was eaten. The container was 3/4 empty. He was gone for two months and Mom likes that candy, too. It is not a seasonal item and can easily be replaced.

He says that he doesn't know where anything is. Although some things were moved when the kitchen was reset, most things are in exactly the same place. The things that were moved, were moved to a location that was so obvious, most people could readily find it by opening one or two drawers/cupboards.

That was followed by a few rounds of the inevitable game of, "Do you know where ___ is?" No, Dad, I don't. Sibling took care of those things.

...and for the "you don't have the right" crowd: sibling has PoA and Dad was incapacitated. Sibling gave the go-ahead to reset the kitchen. It needed to be done.