I think Im dating a single father with a jealous adult daughter?
I’m a 48F have been with my boyfriend Marcus 49M for 8 years. We recently broke up because I felt lonely in the relationship and after two weeks of no contact he reached out, sounded sincere, and I agreed to try to work things out. Since then I haven’t seen him once.
Throughout our relationship I used to spend the night at his house regularly. He would invite me over, we would watch movies together, hang out, do what normal couples do and he made me feel welcome in his home. Although we live in the same city, this started going down to two days a week (usually Friday and Saturdays) to just (Fridays) once his 18 year old daughter moved in with him after her mom remarried, our time together went from twice a week, to once a week, to now not seeing each other at all. He has not once invited me over or made any effort to see me since we agreed to work things out or even before we broke up.
This isn’t the first time his daughter’s presence has affected our relationship. Three years ago we went to his niece’s birthday party and he reserved a hotel room with two beds. Instead of sleeping in the same bed with me he chose to sleep in his daughter’s bed and I slept alone the entire night. When I brought it up he said he didn’t know how to handle it. After that I stopped attending his family events because I was scared of feeling invisible again.
I also noticed that when we are alone he is warm, affectionate and makes me feel completely loved. But the moment his daughter is around I become invisible to him.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Am I wrong for feeling this way?
I have known his daughter for eight years. But I feel like he does not make it known to her that I am important in his life. She does not talk to me. I make every effort to say hi if I ever see her. She never says hi to me or even acknowledge me. I don’t know if she feels like I’m taking her dad away. I’m not trying to do that. But she lived in her home with her mother while her mother dated her boyfriend and eventually married him. How is it any different from me? What am I doing wrong? Is it me or is it him? Please help me if you’ve been through this.
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