The River and the Stones
Two people, one young and one old, were sitting by the edge of a river. The water flowed, and stones were scattered from one bank to the other. The older person watched the river for a while, without saying anything.
— Have you ever noticed how these stones move? — she asked.
The young one looked.
— They seem still.
The young one kept watching. Slowly, she noticed it. The stones were oscillating. Not much. But they were. The river pushed them, and they moved a little, but they also resisted. They shifted.
— That’s true — she said. — But only a little.
— Some very little. Others more. It depends on the stone. But none is completely still. The river doesn’t allow it.
— To live is to be in the middle of this river, jumping from stone to stone. You are born on one bank and die on the other, but in between there is only the river and the stones. There is no solid ground. There is no pause. From the first day to the last, you are jumping.
— But people stop, “on some stones,” don’t they?
— But the river doesn’t stop. And the stone under your feet doesn’t stop. You can stand still for a while, but the stone keeps moving, even if you are standing still on it. The river keeps pushing both of you. Standing still is not stopping. It’s only not noticing that you are in motion.
— And what happens to those who stand still?
The old woman pointed to a large, flat stone, almost in the middle of the river. It barely moved.
— Look at that one.
— It’s the most stable of all — said the young one.
— For now — said the old woman. — But what happens to a stone that barely moves, inside a river?
The young one thought.
— It gets closer to sinking?
— Exactly. It may seem stable. But the stones that seem the firmest are the ones closest to losing movement. The stones that will continue being carried by the water the longest are precisely those that, at first glance, “tremble more.”
— So unstable stones are better?
— They are more alive — said the old woman. — They are still being contested by the river. They are still in conversation with the current.
— And someone who stands still on the stones, without jumping — said the young one, thinking out loud — is sinking with them?
— Yes. In the river, when a person tries to stop jumping—stops thinking, stops interpreting what is happening around them—they move closer to the riverbed. They remove motion even from the most unstable stones, and quickly. But in the end, they will have to jump, because…
— We are not like fish. We have to stay on stones. And we are forced to keep jumping, from one bank to the other.
— Precisely. For us, there is no other way to live. The only question is whether you jump “well” or “poorly.”
The young one kept looking at the stones.
— But how do you jump well?
— It’s not really a matter of jumping better or worse, but of understanding the dynamics of jumping. Most people choose the largest stone. The widest, the flattest, the one that barely trembles. It seems obvious. It seems safe.
— And isn’t it?
— It’s safe for landing. But the large, flat stone that barely trembles is closer to sinking. And when you are on it, comfortable, without needing to balance, you are exactly in the most dangerous place. You are on ground that was already giving way, on a stone that was already stopping, before you stepped on it.
— The stone that trembles is still being carried quickly by the river. It is very alive. It is hard to stand on it, because you will tremble with it when you land. But it is not going as quickly toward the bottom, because it is still more in tune with the flow.
The young one fell silent.
— So the good jumper chooses the stones that tremble?
— The “good” jumper has learned that trembling is a sign that the stone is in better dialogue with the river. And prefers to be where that dialogue happens.
— But there are people who stand still, or choose only stable stones, and they seem fine — said the young one. — They even seem safer than those who are always trembling when they land.
— They seem — agreed the old woman. — But they simply don’t notice that they are losing movement.
— And when do they notice?
— When the stone is already nearing the riverbed. When it becomes harder to jump, because what used to feel like flow now feels like the resistance of the water rising to their heels. Remember: not jumping is not an option. We can delay more or less in choosing the next jump. But between one bank and the other…
The young one looked at the river with a different expression.
— Isn’t that a bit unsettling? Not being able to stop?
— It is the nature of the river. It does not exist to comfort us.
— And who jumps “well”? — asked the young one. — What is that jumper like?
— You know people like that.
The young one thought.
— Are they the ones who don’t panic when the ground trembles? Who don’t look for the perfect stone? Who keep moving even without knowing exactly where?
— Exactly — said the old woman. — The good jumper does not look for a stone that doesn’t move. They have learned, in some way, that such a stone does not exist. And more than that, they have learned that looking for it does not guarantee safety.
— How do you learn that?
— Some learn without ever having thought about it. They learn by jumping, instead of searching for the best stones. They simply jump, with a lightness that the more studious often cannot imitate. They never wanted to lose the feeling of being in the river. They know that movement is normal. That jumping is what one does.
— And the others? If, one way or another, as long as we are alive we will keep jumping, what happens to them?
— The others spend their whole lives searching for the large, flat, stable stone. The best answer for the next jump. Or they spend their lives trying to live still, jumping only at the last possible moment. They live getting their heels wet, from stone to stone, embracing inertia, from one bank to the other. Sometimes, it even seems as though they have already reached the other bank in advance. It seems they do not like to jump.