Is it worth becoming a SAHM?
*posting anonymous as family follows my main*
My LO is 11 month old and ever since my maternity leave ended in September, my husband and I have discussed SAHM. He wants me to do it, and has run the numbers and things would be tight but he thinks we could make it work. I, on the other hand, don’t want to quit, and every time we have this conversation makes me feel like a shifty mom.
It also doesn’t help that when we discuss this my husband has this idea in his head of what we’d do all day and I keep trying to tell him it’s not realistic. He thinks if I’m at home I’ll have this whole schedule like Monday we’ll do storytime at the library, Tuesday will be a zoo day. Wednesday will be music time, etc. He also mentions how he thinks the summer will be a “waste” as we will only have XX amount of time on weekends to do fun things and that something I could do with our baby if I was home.
We don’t have help from family in our area and we are starting to discuss a 2nd child. He hates the idea of my entire paycheck going to daycare, and that we should give more attention to our children. I feel that he is focusing on the kids and his ideal family situation, where I’m focusing on the health of our family. If I dislike being a SAHM parent, is that even healthy for our kids? Am I being selfish for wanting to work, if it makes me a better parent? I want to show my kids that they can do anything.
It also doesn’t help that the LO was up at 4am, took 90 minutes to go back down for an hour and then was back up for the day today. Sorry for this being all over the place