u/Tedx-J

Yesterday I got that classic “can I pull up?” call. Me, being a generous citizen of the republic, I even sponsored the Uber like a true investor.

She arrives, vibes are vibing, I even go full MasterChef, prepared food, set the mood, tukachill kidogo… everything is aligning like a well-written script.

Fast forward to “game time”… me thinking I’m about to enter Champions League finals.

Kidogo kidogo… plot twist.

Nafika hapo mwisho, madam ako fully on ‘maintenance mode.😭

Like… dashboard warning light is ON and nobody sent the memo???

At this point I’m just standing there like, “So hii ni demo version ama what?”

Honestly, communication is free. Ata unge-text mapema like:

“Bro, today ni soft life, not contact sports.”

Because now I’ve invested Uber fare, groceries, emotional energy… only to unlock “Try again next week”

Conclusion: Life is a series of unexpected updates, and sometimes you’re the beta tester. 😒

I’m not even trying to start gender wars, I’m just asking if anyone else has noticed this.

Lately every time I meet a girl and we start talking, it somehow gets to money way too fast. Not even in a “we’ve known each other for a while” type of way, I mean almost immediately.

It starts small and casual like:

• “Can you send me fare?”
• “I haven’t eaten today”
• “Help me with airtime”
• “My salon appointment is tomorrow”
• “I’m stranded”

And I’m there thinking… aren’t we still at the “what’s your favorite color” stage?

What confuses me is it’s become so normal that if you hesitate, suddenly you’re “not serious” or “not generous” or “acting broke.”

Then on the rare occasion a girl helps you financially, even with something small, it can become this thing that gets held over your head forever.

Like one small favor turns into: “After all I’ve done for you…”

And all she did was send 300 once when your app was acting up.

I know not everyone is like this, and I’m not saying men don’t also move weird in dating. But I’m honestly trying to understand when getting to know someone turned into low-budget financial dependency.

Maybe I’m just meeting the wrong people, but dating lately feels less like building connection and more like being softly auditioned for a provider role before basic human chemistry has even formed.

Has it always been like this and I’m just late, or are people also noticing it?

TL;DR:
I came looking for love, but apparently I was pre-approved for a financial burden.