u/Technical_Event1244

Tips to get over someone who doesn't loves you anymore?

Tips to get over someone who doesn't loves you anymore?

ik all the logics. Time heals. I'll be fine.

But the current moment feels like this is the end of the world.

He suddenly decided he doesn't loves me anymore and I don't blame him for it. He has his own reasons.

But now the question is, how do I get over my first love? my first relationship?

Sometimes I cry, but mostly I just feel a lump in my throat. It doesn't goes away. I wish I could just cry freely. I can't even tell anyone in my family. I don't have friends irl. I donno what to do. Please help me out.

u/Technical_Event1244 — 1 day ago

I despise him sm

No need to read this. just venting. ty.

I hope that day comes soon when I don't think of you while looking at ayushmann khurana.

The day I can restart listening to softcore DHH without thinking about the playlist you curated for me.

I hope to despise every love song that you wanted to add in the makeout playlist.

I hate the fact that I can't hate you coz you did nothing wrong.

But ig I was being a huge burden on you, so here, I let go of you.

Bear with me guys. It's my first afterall.

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 2 days ago

have you ever felt this way?

Making someone your only source of happiness & depending on them emotionally can lead to emotional wreckage Once you feel like they're fading away.

My first relationship. Fights happened and now I'm miserable. He said he isn't going anywhere. So I decided to give him some space. For a whole week.

It's just day 4th. And in these 4 days, I daily wake up with a weird anxiety in my chest. cold sensations all over. In my ears as well. And I feel like vomiting, sometimes I do, sometimes not. I feel no energy in my body. almost lifeless. and I feel so anxious.

By noon, I am doing good, going on with my day, even fine at night.

what happens as soon as I wake up? it feels like a loop. Can anyone please help me?

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 2 days ago

I just need to let it out somewhere

So I am just gonna say it here. I donno I can't keep this to myself anymore.

So me and my boyfriend met around 5 months ago & it was like one of those connections you feel instantly. we just knew each other..I told him I like him and we started dating even tho it's long distance. He is so sweet & caring.

few days ago, he had his exam. He is not feeling so well academically & the expectations from is family crushed him even more.

Fights got frequent and ofc we had no physical proximity to solve it with a hug or smth. Even small things became big.

In these 5 months, I didn't realise how dependent I got on him. Since I have no friends or hobbies. It was just him so you get how emotionally dependent I became. my world revolved around him.

He is exhausted. and things escalated so much, we both started telling each other to block n stuffs.

But i somehow got into my senses and told him & myself to calm down. I decided to give him space for a week. His anxiety makes him pull away while mine makes me want reassurance that he is not leaving.

My body is treating this like an emergency. The fights lasted 3 days and it's been 3 days since I haven't texted him. First few days, I wasn't even able to eat properly. I cried at random moments. cold sensations in my chest & ears.

Now I can't sleep. I feel this weird thing in my body and mind and no matter how much I try, it doesn't goes away. I am fine by noon everyday, sleep well but then every morning, the anxiety is back.

Love is really not for the week. It's my first relationship. I learnt so much but at what cost. I just wish we could go back to how we were 9 days ago.

while I write this, the weird feeling in my chest stays. I can't sleep. please help.

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 3 days ago

How do you guys explore philosophical ideas?

yeah I was reading this article about nihilism, existentialism & absurdism.

Still a beginner. will appreciate if y'all share the methods to explore these ideas in detail.

u/Technical_Event1244 — 4 days ago

This is gonna be long. fts.

here's the vid.

As someone who was always seen as an academic achiever, every year my goal was simply to do better than the last. But somewhere along the way, I never really developed a genuine interest in science or maths. & not because they weren’t interesting but because the pressure around them was overwhelming. I just wanted to somehow pass, secure a good percentage & move forward.

Social science felt different. It naturally made its way into my thinking as I grew older. At the same time, I’ve recently found science fascinating in theory. I love listening to people who are genuinely passionate about it. Learning new facts and understanding how things work excites me. That’s why I sometimes wonder if I actually hate the subject or did the system make me associate it with fear?

Whether it was school teachers, coaching or even home, my parents & relatives, the pressure to perform was always there. The focus was never really on learning. it was on scoring. on cracking exams. on reaching 98%. on competing. on JEE, NEET, UPSC & every fudging thing in between. "Study" which could have been something meaningful and enjoyable often became reduced to rote learning and rank chasing.

rn I’m preparing for a competitive exam. Even tho I genuinely enjoy studying the subjects, there’s still a part of my mind that just wants to crack it, secure a job & prove smth. It’s hard to completely separate learning from outcomes when you’ve grown up in a system that ties your worth to numbers.

A friend once asked me what I would be if there were no pressure from society. I didn’t know how to answer. But somewhere deep down, I know I enjoy reading philosophy, exploring ideas & thinking deeply. Maybe I’d be a writer. Or a teacher who studies concepts out of curiosity & explains them because she truly enjoys understanding them.

Idk if this makes sense or if many people can relate. But sometimes I feel like the system shapes our relationship with learning more than we realize.

again. idk. :D......

Could relate with the rage in his voice.

u/Technical_Event1244 — 4 days ago

There's a huge void in my heart like I've lost everything. Suddenly getting anxious and having thoughts about all the way he showed me how much he loved me. How can it vanish in a day???

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 6 days ago

Soooo.

How do you get over someone who never hurt you?

Me and my boyfriend were in a relationship for 4-5 months now. And I never thought this day would come as well.

It's all my fault. I'm a pathetic insecure loser. I was so insecure coz of my past experiences with men or coz of the things I saw on social media. I did things that hurt him. He says he isn't able to be himself fully in front of me. That we fought or had arguments on every little topic. It exhausted him. He is at his lowest academically. Says he is too hurt and won't ever be able to love me the same. He won't be able to forgive me.

The same man who taught me how to love myself. Helped me with insecurities related to my appearance is now saying all this.I feel shattered. Before him, I didn't know what love was. I'd have fixed this in my own ways if we were together but long distance makes it harder. I can't do anything except apologising.

We reached to the point where we both were telling each other to block. But none had the courage to do it. I don't want him to feel suffocated in this but I am not able to let him go. We decided to have some space for 7 days. If he still doesn't feels like he can forgive me after that, we'll drift apart.

ik this sounds like a typical breakup story, I used to feel the same when I read such posts on social media. Now I get them. I get the pain. I get the helplessness.

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 7 days ago

My boyfriend and I (both 19) are in a long distance relationship but we're only 35kms apart. The problem is I come from a very conservative background where even being seen with a guy in public can seriously damage my reputation & my future. We both really want to meet but I'm limited in what I can do openly.

I have some freedom through college. I can step out for a few hours without it being questioned. But I'm nervous about running into someone I know.

Has anyone navigated something like this? Looking for practical, realistic advice on how to meet safely without drawing attention. Not looking for judgment about my situation, just practical suggestions from people who've been there.

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u/Technical_Event1244 — 9 days ago