u/Taskmasterfan8

I (28f) have recently realized I’m gray ace. I had sex for the first time recently to see how it would feel and didn’t enjoy it — a few moments felt nice, but my vibrator is much better, and the rest of it was neutral to unpleasant. I’ve been working with a sex therapist as I’ve been figuring out my asexuality, and she said my experience was pretty typical even for an allo person and she thinks it’s possible that I might really enjoy sex if it was with someone I loved and trusted (vs. just a hookup, which is what I had). So I’m wondering if I should keep trying. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Any advice on how to tell the difference between being sex-repulsed vs. only liking sex in a particular context?