AITAH for not accepting engagement ring
My (26F) boyfriend (26M) and I have talked at length about moving to the next step of engagement. He has asked me to exactly what ring/ styles I want and I have sent him multiple pictures of what I want and what I don’t want.
We were at a birthday party with his parents and his mom tells me to try on her ring and asks if I like it. I hate it. It’s not my style at all, but of course I didn’t say that. I thought it was odd she had me try it on, so the next day when I was alone with my BF I asked him if he planned on giving me that ring. He said yes.
I was extremely upset because he knows it is the opposite of what I want, and quite frankly I think it’s ugly. He said it’s the only option because it’s free. We have had multiple conversations about pushing out engagement so he can save money, and when I do things to help him with his work he said he will put “my cut” toward my ring fund. We even both have discussed selling jewelry we already have that to fund the ring. We are not poor, but not well off. We live a very comfortable life.
After discussing my disappointment with not wanting the ring it turned into me being materialistic and not wanting to marry him, but wanting and engagement ring.
My thought it he is going completely against my wishes and doesn’t care. He said it’s just a ring, but it is something I will wear every single day. I won’t want to wear his mother’s ring.
His parents are very well off but of course it’s a nice sentiment for her to give us her ring, but I think she is only doing this so she can get an upgraded one herself. I want my own ring my own style, AITAH for that?