u/Sweaty-Assist-8934

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can't help but feel abandoned rn

so me and this good friend and i met yesterday to hang out and catch up after exams. this friend, said she'll talk to me if she wants to invite me over to this other city she's going to just to visit, which i was fine with last night.

she specifically told me that she would tell me what her response was, if she was going or not, and we both have each other's location for safety purposes anyway (i don't check it tbf since i forget sometimes due to object permanence). this other friend, who hasn't talked to me all semester, i texted this morning (who is also friends with the friend i met up with yesterday) to ask if she was busy.

the friend i met yesterday told me that this other friend wouldn't be busy at all, and that she wasn't working or anything so if i wanted to i could talk to her. so tell me why i talk to this other friend, not only does she say that she's in the city that my good friend is going to, but also that the good friend NEVER reached out to me at all?

i had a suspicion, a hunch or so but i didn't think that they'd just up and not invite me. it's not even that which is messing with my head, it's the lying to me that one of the other friends isn't busy and that the friend that was going to invite me just straight up lied to me yesterday, saying that she was going by herself or if i wanted to come, she'd consider it.

i'd much rather she (the friend i met yesterday) have been honest with me, i would've appreciated it more. i just hate that i'm splitting on her rn thinking she's a bad friend when she isn't and she needs her space and time besides me.

EDIT: i think i need some advice on how not to let this upset me sm to the point where i sh or overspend to try and compensate

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