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My fiancée just asked me if I’d be willing to go on a Disney Cruise for Christmas that would be gone December 23-28. His mom is older and wants to do this as our Christmas this year. It’ll be us, her, and his son who is 21. I, however, have two sons that are 23 and 24 and both married and I just can’t. I couldn’t imagine leaving behind my own children at Christmas. Any other time even if we went before Christmas would be fine. I told him he could go with his family but I’d have to stay back to be with my children grown or not. It just wouldn’t feel right to me. I’ve never in their life missed a Christmas with them. I’m literally their only parent. Their dad passed when they were little. He said he couldn’t imagine going if I didn’t go. But I don’t want him to feel like he can’t go. I just can’t go and miss Christmas with my children. I’d have a terrible time. Although I’ve never been on a cruise, I can’t leave my children to enjoy it at Christmas without being with them. I’d be sad to miss Christmas with him too but even more sad to miss Christmas with my kids. Plus, I still have my parents too. Now I feel like he’s torn and I don’t want that either. I really do want him to go if that’s what he wants to do. I just can’t do it. Does that make sense?

I work for a small company. We have roughly 30 employees at our plant. We have three plants between two states. Our laziest employee begged, cried, threatened to quit etc if she wasn’t promoted to a management role. We have a no phone policy and she stays on her phone the entire ten hour shift. Everyone sees it. All the employees complain about it. No one does anything about it. She comes up with excuses of being a “caregiver” in her home. When one of our longest employees got another job offer somewhere else and had put in his two week notice our company did offer him more compensation to stay and she took that and hounded in on it and started saying she wanted to be in management and would quit too. They didn’t give it to her at first. Actually, it took them over a month and a half to do anything. Her promotion is based on her inventory counts that I’ve helped her with countless times and so has others. But I’ve helped her more than any other employee here. I work three different positions within my company and although I was compensated for an extra role I took on, I was never offered anything in management although I have countless college credits and experience and she has none. I feel some kind of way about this because I do not feel like her new position was based on her own merit but rather professional blackmail. Maybe they are just trying to weed her out by giving her all this extra responsibility because she will have zero help with it. I don’t know. All of us employees are just shocked.