State dependent functioning
Say one has a responsibility that is 247. Like having a needy pet, or a child as a single parent. But, that part had to be created specifically to care take because it was never asked for.
So then you have like 10 other parts. And they do well and have their own coping skills and control and happy lives.
But it’s impossible to be a caretaker 247 and to be on call every second because other parts need to live and work and attempt to enjoy life.
So to stay organized, you try to stay on a routine. Like feed at this time everyday, walk at this time everyday blahblahblah. But then the pet/child doesn’t cooperate, when you intentionally switch into the caretaker part. And you’re only there for a limited time to get the needs done. So when they don’t cooperate, you switch back out and continue with life. But then the pet/child may come into your eye sight and alert you- and trigger you- back into caretaker part- the rest of the parts are upset cause they are like can u pleas e just let us stay consistently to finish xyz. I as a result don’t get anything done cause I’m switching back and forth. It makes me angry. It makes my body so angry. It’s frustrating and feels so out of control on top of the mind which is also out of control. I’ve tried everything.
I do have a new sitter they will now be going to 2x a week. So, maybe over time the stress meter will go down and therefore the frustration and rapid switching?