How to deal with being lusted over?
Salam, this is not an attention or looking for a validation post, I’m genuinely looking for advice. I am 21F and I grew up not being the most attractive and often bullied for my looks then had a glow up in recent years. I won’t say I’m the most attractive person now, but I am decent looking. Probably is all that ever caused me was to get lusted over and never genuinely liked. And now that most of my friends are married I feel so lonely and lost. I genuinely don’t understand where I am going wrong. I have plenty of guys asking me out but it’s obvious their intentions is not genuine, and a lot of men stare, I dress modestly for the most part and don’t wear much makeup, if any. It makes me a bit sad that lust is the only thing guys think of, after the “glow up” a lot of my female friends stop being friends with me. I am not that religious, I do the basics and working on improving and hoping I’d end up with someone who’s on the same level or better religiously. On the other hand religion guys who I’m interested in lower their gaze and avoid women avoid me like a plague. I was even considering becoming a niqabi for a while but my parents are against it due to the area we live in. Do not dm if you are a guy please.
As stated above I WILL NOT BE ANSWERING DMS.