Can anyone advise me on this situation?
Hello everyone, I wanted to share my story about my two children with a horrible ex partner
I split up with my partner around 8 years ago. I was very young and had no business being with her ever since I’ve had a tough time trying to see my kids and trying to coparent.
Of course I’m not perfect, but I’ve tried to be good. I’ve always paid for them and always made an effort to see them. I have disagreed with loads of ways they are being brought up but I’ve never had a chance to say anything. Anything I’ve mentioned turns into an argument.
Long story short, She has always badmouthed me to the kids and brainwash them about me and my family. She doesn’t push them, teach them good manners and general lifestyle you would for kids. I have had to accept this and I have tried for years to keep her happy just so I can see my kids but I have always had issues.
Around six months ago, she agreed to let my partner meet my kids even after she has had countless partners that I have no say in meeting the kids etc. anyhow she agreed and we took the kids out. We had an amazing weekend they loved it and then on Sunday arranging the pick up she started arguing.
She ended up turning up at my mom’s house with a baseball bat and hitting me. I caught all this on video and all the threats via text. All in front of the kids and on my front garden caught on video.
I reported this to the police but didn’t want to press charges at the time as I’m always looking for the best outcome, but since then I have not seen my kids and I have been blocked off all contact. I I eventually pressed charges. She even said to me it was self-defence and made lies. She is that naive even with me holding the camera She still said this. I pressed charges with all the overwhelming evidence and the police got her in for an interview.
The police in charge, then called me and told me she had admitted it admitted fault. Of course she still tried to make up lies that my mother came out with a weapon which is a complete lie and nowhere on the footage.
The police said that because she admitted it we can give her a caution. I felt like this was a slap in the face to me. I have clear evidence of a premeditate attack and domestic abuse of course I do not want to go to prison but I be punished with in the law properly especially after this evidence because if it was the other way round, I would 100% be in jail right now
I believe now the police is going to push the case to the CPS but then the police woman also told me that she is now saying that I hit my child and that was the reason which is another complete lie this is so stressful and a horrible situation for me I’ve always just wanted to see my kids with no drama.
I have looked at taking her to court for access, but of course it cost so much money so I’m looking at representing myself in the future with assistance from a solicitor.
I 100% know she is that much of disgusting scumbag that she would convince my child to say that I of course have nothing to worry about and I’m happy to be fully investigated because I know I have never done such thing.
She does not work she is uneducated chav who obviously has no morals.the Whole situation is horrible for me. I have not seen my kids and she has always brainwashed them about me. All I want is to see my kids and have a good relationship with with them. I have accepted that I have to wait till they’re a bit older and approach them myself.
I’m just looking for advice from people who went through a similar situation.
I am looking at representing myself for access in the future.