I need help saving my sister from her narcissistic abuser.
My sister has been with her (sorta Ex husband) for over 15 years. First loves for both of them. When they lived far away it was harder to see that her husband was a narcissist but when they moved closer it became very apparent. They have two kids and went through a separation 9 months ago because he “wanted his own space, wanted to see other people, everything is her fault she’s controlling” when they finally separated she told us a lot about things that had happened over the years. We made sure to validate her feelings without piling on. Encouraged her to focus on herself and her kids. Offered support like babysitting, play dates, invited her out. The problem is now he’s weaselled his way back in. He’s basically living there again and she’s thinking of getting back together with him because she finds it difficult being a single parent…. (Our parents live basically next door and offer to watch the kids all the time) I know deep down there’s nothing I can really do but I can’t be civil with this guy after everything I’ve experienced and suppressed for the sake of her relationship with the family and everything I’ve heard from her.
So I guess my question is.. is there anything else I can do? Part of me wants to lash out and tell her she’s going to live in misery for the rest of her life and that she’s being pathetic but I know that’ll just drive her away for good. I’m just hoping for a last Hail Mary because I think she’ll be driven away anyways because he isolates her.
Also to add she’s never been able to admit he was a narcissist but she also distrust everything everyone else has to say about anything.
Please help…