My roommate keeps eating my food!!!!
I'm so irritated. I've had this roommate for about 3 years. Originally it was me And my boyfriend and we had an extra room that we wanted to rent out in our townhouse to make rent easier on us.( For reference I live in California and my rent is $3,000. No joke)...the three of us essentially split it equally. So back in January this year my boyfriend and I broke up and he moved out. I now pay my rent and my boyfriends rent. So to be clear. Im paying $2000 dollars a month and my roommate is paying $1000. I didn't increase his rent because I do have the bigger bedroom and the living room is pretty much mine even though he could use it if he wanted to but he just always goes to his room.
Ok... My roommate is 27 and I'm 35. He's younger and struggling and I think he's mostly a good guy and I've tried really hard to not let this get to me. Back when my boyfriend was still here I would tell my roommate "hey if you forgot to get yourself something at the store And you see that I have it, go for it, no worries, just go buy yourself what you need after that tho!! As in don't just keep taking my food but if you forgot bread and you see that I have bread then no big deal" ...so I Really didn't mind that level of borrowing stuff. Cut to now it's just the two of us and the financial burden on me is tight! I can afford my life but I'm budgeting my money a lot tighter now and I NEED MY FOOD!!!!!!!!! I LITERALLY HAVEN'T EVEN BOUGHT TAKE OUT ONCE SINCE DECEMBER!!!!!!!!
It's not just a slice of bread or a few grapes. It's EVERYTHING!!!!!! I feel like he's taken everything. Every single day I see something that has been tampered with. I told him to please not eat my food and he said he wouldn't but then he does!!! Granted he comes home maybe once a month with a lot of groceries and he says that I can eat any of it but I don't. I don't need him to buy me food. I NEED HIM TO BUY HIM FOOD. I plan my meals really meticulously and just because he bought more potatoes doesn't mean I have potatoes planned for that week. I just need my food to be mine and I have never taken any of his food.
It also doesn't help that he's always late with rent and is always leaving a fuckin mess in the kitchen and bathroom. It's like ever since my ex left he's gotten lazier and more disrespectful. Im about to shut this shit down and ask him to leave honestly. He's a nice guy but I'm frustrated as shit. Not to mention he will take the last of something I bought!!! AND THE. LEAVE THE FUCKING EMPTY CONTAINER IN THE FRIDGE OR CUPBOARD!!!!!!!!!! that shit bugs me to no end. Like he expects me to throw his trash away!?!?!?!? Fuck you!!!!!!!!!!!! Im really building resentment with this guy. I bought a lock box for my side of the fridge but it's not big enough for everything. I don't know what else to do. Ive asked him to stop and he will for like a week and then he'll start up again. What do I do!!!!!!!!!! I'm so irritated and I feel disrespected and just too old honestly to be dealing with this bullshit.
I really don't want to move just because everything is extremely expensive regardless of where I live anyway and Ive been really grieving the loss of my 8 year long relationship. I'm just tired. Not to mention also this guy doesn't do anything for the house. I take out the trash, he's never not once gone to fill up the 3, 5gal water jugs for the water cooler. He's Never not once vacuumed even tho he tracks dirt in on his shoes. Hes never not once cleaned the bathroom, he leave food crumbs and garbage on the kitchen counters every single day. He leaves dishes in the sink every single day. All I fucking ask for is for him to clean up after himself. That's it!!!! That's all I ask and to pay rent on time. This guy is a grade A lazy fuck and I'm done. I don't know what else to do.
Tldr: my roommate eats all my food and I've asked him to stop but he doesn't. I bought a lock box for the fridge but it's not big enough to hold everything and I'm so frustrated I could cry.