I acted immaturely during an argument, but girlfriend's reaction has really disturbed me
M27 / F27
My girlfriend and I got into a minor argument around 2am last night. I want to be fair and admit that I definitely escalated things afterward by intentionally continuing to annoy her when she was already irritated. I was tickling/prodding at her feet trying to get a reaction even though she clearly wasn’t in the mood for it. Looking back, it was immature and aggravating, especially because she had something important the next morning and was stressed about getting enough sleep.
Things escalated and she ended up punching me in the face hard enough that I cut the inside of my lip. What upset me afterward was that there didn’t seem to be much remorse about it, and the argument kept spiraling from there. She started insulting my appearance and telling me I should “go to hell and burn.”
She only ended up getting a few hours of sleep before a 10am–4pm event the next day, and her main argument is that I ruined the night before something important. To try and make things easier this morning, I offered to pay for her Uber there and back, bought her a coffee, etc. The coffee was refused and is just sitting there untouched.
I do accept that I pushed things too far with the annoyance and contributed to the situation when I should’ve just left it alone and let us both calm down. But I’m also struggling with the fact that the physical side of it and some of the things said to me seem to be getting brushed past because she was stressed and tired.
Trying to get a balanced outside perspective because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m underreacting or overreacting to how unhealthy this whole interaction was on both sides.