u/Strict-Art-6364

so iv been with my partner for over a year now, i have a child and he has two children, the whole situation hasn’t been easy due to issues on both sides with the other parents, my side has calmed down where as his side slows then ramps up every few weeks, my child goes to their fathers friday to sunday, i will then have them one weekend a month to spend time with them and so he can have a life also, in the time me and my partner have been together we have had one weekend alone, he has his children saturday to tuesday, he refuses to ask the mother for a weekend child free as she makes things difficult, which means any plans we get invited to over the weekend can’t happen as there is no one to have the kids, at first i understood it he wanted to keep the peace, but now it’s starting to affect our relationship, we don’t live together which makes things harder (moving in together isn’t an option at this moment) iv started resenting him for not putting us first even if its once every few months, and now im starting to resent the kids which i feel awful about because it isnt their fault at all but sometimes i just want to spend time with my partner alone, am i being unreasonable

My partner and i have been together for about a year now, i have a child he has two, iv had issues with my BD but we have managed to resolve our issues, my partner unfortunately isn’t in the same boat, they split their children 50/50, but my partner is not allowed any weekends off, not allowed to take the children away, asked for money on the daily even though he pays half of everything to the mother, its even got to the point that i have blocked the BM but she keeps creating fake accounts to send me messages between them both when he’s refusing to send her more money, she will then threaten to not send the children if her rules aren’t followed, even to the point she did refuse to send them after my partner went to her and said that her new partner had grabbed one of the children, social services were called by her to say that my partner was manipulating the children, she told him that social services had said he wasn’t allowed near the children until an investigation had been done but when he spoke to them they said that under no circumstances was he to be denied access to the children and that they would be speaking with the mother, they also said the claim was not a corner at all for them and it was classed as a seat iv issue that should be sorted privately between both parties, i have begged and pleaded for him to go down the official route, courts, mediation, but he is terrified that she will stop contact completely, she is destroying our relationship, i try to keep my mouth closed as i don’t want to ever be blamed for the reason he can’t see his children but how much longer do i stay quiet before i completely explode and possibly ruin what i thought was going to be a great blended family