How do you balance asking questions about someone's faith with letting their fruit show naturally?
I guess I am mostly wanting advice, pointers.
I used to have a number of questions about faith/theology to ask to see if we are on the same page, I wouldn't ask all at once of course and this was mostly deal breaker stuff. I realized anyone of us can give the right answers but we also need to live that truth.
Then the last guy I was seeing I decided not to pressure anything or ask too much, hung out slightly longer than I usually do with a guy and this man was very nice. He said he prioritized practical living over theology. He never really spoke about Jesus though or showed any desire to grow or learn more despite being christian all his life so I thought I was being harsh. Eventually we ended things because he held opinions I didn't agree with like not believing that certain sins are sins since the bible was barely more than just a good book to him and other incompatibilities.
I now believe we need both the knowledge and obedience, how can one live for Christ without knowing him. I'm not looking for a perfect man, not one who knows everything or doesn't have any struggles but it's important that he be a committed christian with a desire to continuously grow and learn. How do you approach this? And how do you ask questions without making it seem like you are being judgemental of someone's faith?