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One of my colleagues and I decided to stay in the same office quarter as flatmates. We didn’t know each other before but met during the document verification of our appointment. At first she seemed sweet but now I don’t feel very comfortable with her anymore. She’s pretty selfish and always makes sure she gets the better pillow, the better pizza slice, the better seat in bus or the better appreciation at office. Now it seems like I’m being petty here but it’s really annoying for me. We both work in the largest PSB of India and there’s a lot of work pressure, but she makes sure she gets the better tasks where she’ll get praised more than me. Now I was really trying to adjust as flatmates (currently we’re staying at a PG) but omg it’s so frustrating. I’ve decided to take a separate quarter so that if needed my family can move in with me and now she’s like oh you should’ve told me earlier, it’s gonna be hard for me to stay alone. But is it really my responsibility? You got a job, you need to stay here now figure out how you’re gonna do it, how does it become my responsibility to stay with her!!! Though I tried but she always puts herself first so why shouldn’t I? Am I being a b*tch here?

I’ve gotten a job recently in the largest public sector bank of India and been posted 160km away from my home town. I visit my family every weekend but still it feels empty living away from them. My colleague/roommate is also living with me but still it’s hard to adjust as I’m a single child and have never shared rooms with anyone. The office is nice overall still it’s new and I’m learning so doesn’t feel too fulfilling. I miss my parents very much, if I ask them to move in with me they’ll in a second but it’ll be inconvenient for them I know.

Also my relationship is in a different sinking ship. I’ve been dating him for a few years but it’s never been smooth. We meet once a month as we stay in different cities and mostly it’s me visiting him at his house. He never bothers to meet halfway or come to my city. We talk mostly once in a day but still it’s like he keeps saying he’s too busy. As I’ve moved out from my home I feel lonely so I really wanted him to be there for me but he just doesn’t get it for him it’s not a big deal. That man will move away in a year to another country for his post doc and it really fears me thinking of our relationship’s future. All the time it’s me making sacrifices, it’s me going above and beyond for him.

It’s really exciting getting the job you once dreamed of and having someone by your side as your partner. But why do I still feel so lonely all the time when I have both? I know I’ll settle in the job eventually but how will I settle in my relationship?

I’ve gotten a job recently in the largest public sector bank of India and been posted 160km away from my home town. I visit my family every weekend but still it feels empty living away from them. My colleague/roommate is also living with me but still it’s hard to adjust as I’m a single child and have never shared rooms with anyone. The office is nice overall still it’s new and I’m learning so doesn’t feel too fulfilling. I miss my parents very much, if I ask them to move in with me they’ll in a second but it’ll be inconvenient for them I know.

Also my relationship is in a different sinking ship. I’ve been dating him for a few years but it’s never been smooth. We meet once a month as we stay in different cities and mostly it’s me visiting him at his house. He never bothers to meet halfway or come to my city. We talk mostly once in a day but still it’s like he keeps saying he’s too busy. As I’ve moved out from my home I feel lonely so I really wanted him to be there for me but he just doesn’t get it for him it’s not a big deal. That man will move away in a year to another country for his post doc and it really fears me thinking of our relationship’s future. All the time it’s me making sacrifices, it’s me going above and beyond for him.

It’s really exciting getting the job you once dreamed of and having someone by your side as your partner. But why do I still feel so lonely all the time when I have both? I know I’ll settle in the job eventually but how will I settle in my relationship?

I’ve been currently working as a JA in SBI and I wanna know jobs with better pay and opportunities than my current job but one thing is non negotiable in my case that’s home state posting. I have some family issues due to which getting posted outside my home state (WB) will be inconvenient for my parents. Please suggest what other exams should I prepare for?