NP hosted the other day and I found.. *stains* on our comforter
Basically, NP (29F,) and I (27F) have been living together for 6 years. We have had conversations about expectations after hosting in our shared space. My expectations are that sheets be changed and any blankets etc that got bodily fluids on them be put in the laundry bin. For a long time, it was like that! The expectations were followed! It was great!
Then our amount of sheets started dwindling (dog had a couple accidents in our bed, no problem for the waterproof mattress cover, but obviously sheets took a hit, he doesn’t do that anymore but we just…haven’t gotten new sheets cuz I don’t have the money to and NP just doesn’t care to.)
Now, when she hosts in our shared space, she expects me to just be okay with the things I was never previously okay with when it comes to Where I Sleep, and I’m supposed to be okay with dirty sheets with bodily fluids that aren’t mine, or at least mine and hers from a moment between us. For months she has not changed the sheets after because “we don’t have any other sheets.” Sure, whatever, why hasn’t she washed them? “Well I don’t have enough quarters right now to just go to the laundromat for just the sheets” which like… at that point just do the rest of the laundry??
But! Friday she hosted, I wasn’t supposed to be home (as I typically prefer not to be when she hosts) but I had a medical event the day prior that made me unable to go to work on Friday. Instead, I hung out for 3 hours in my roommates room (with permission from roommate) still in pain from my medical event, because she was spiraling when I told her what happened and that I wouldn’t be going to work and I was like “dude I’ll just go to roommates room it’s fine.”
A friend of mine came over and since I had been telling her about how we had had dirty sheets for months and that NP was hosting, my friend bought us a set of new sheets as a housewarming gift. NP and friend changed the sheets and NP seemed happy about it but there was something strange in her eyes that shifted? I don’t really know how to explain it.
And NP has been being very short, cold, and almost downright mean to me since then.
Today, I’m laying in bed still in physical pain preparing to go to work tomorrow after NP has been being mean to me since Saturday and I don’t know why, and I’m curled up under our comforter aaaaandd…. there is a MASSIVE cumstain on our comforter. She is the only one with the uh, equipment, required to do that that was involved Friday and we use condoms between us so I know it wasn’t from us. And thinking back, the bed was still made almost perfectly when Meta left Friday.
TLDR I think NP fucked meta on top of our comforter because our sheets were gross, then didn’t mention it or clean the comforter or put it in the laundry bin because she’s gotten so used to not doing that in recent months because of various excuses, and when we finally changed the sheets a friend gave us as a housewarming gift I felt a bit cleaner, just to find a massive cumstain on Top of the comforter I was all curled up in and was holding against my face. I feel like I need to take a shower and have 10,000 conversations.