u/Spare-Syrup-8497

So I saw a woman online say that she was upset that men didn't approach her in public anymore. And all the comments were like "that's because we will be perceived as creeps" (a reputation that is obviously warranted because men act violent) but I want to know if the fact that a woman says she wants men to approach her in random public places more is a form of internalized misogyny? And if it reinforces the idea that men should disturb women who are just trying to go about their day?

I have heard a few women say that they wish more men approached them, and I was wondering what the feminist view is on that? As it's not something that would benefit a lot of women who simply want to be left alone

I've noticed that as an agreeable, shy and introverted man I've faced a lot of discrimination on that basis. I feel like people always tell me to be confident, and offer advice that is often geared towards being extroverted, making the first move and leading. And I wonder sometimes if I were a woman if this expectation wouldn't be so intense or come with the same amount of frustration? I feel like if anything women are shamed for being too confident and loud?

While I think confidence is important for men and women I feel like men are really shamed for being in confidence and common phrases like "women like confident men," and "just be confident" are also offered to women but they certainly have a gendered context to them. I think this kind of advice is more frequently offered to men. As a guy who is more discreet, my personality often gets punished and judged, often subconsciously, even by people I should trust.

I would like to know your thoughts and as feminists if a lot of normal people subconsciously dislike it more when men are shy and reserved and lack confidence because its the opposite of patriarchal masculinity?

I often find what people dislike the most is when a man is pushover as well

I would love to know your thoughts?