u/Spaghettioso

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Pretty much the title.

I absolutely love this guys hair, it looks so perfect! How do I go about getting nice neatly bunched curls like this guy has? Especially at the front, mine are are longer and 'stringy' plus I find that the more I try and 'work' my hair to get it curly it just ends up becoming frizzy instead.

Currently my hair routine is wash every other day luv ur curls sulfate free shampoo and a argan oil spray leave-in conditioner. I don't use any styling products currently but I have used boots curl creme in the past when I had more time. Any advice is really appreciated, thank you :)

Like I just sit in this bare room every day, too scared/anxious to decorate it because I just worry that people will judge me and then I worry about getting it right and it turns into perfectionism. I feel like this dominates every aspect of my life; this fear and paralysis of getting something wrong or that people will hate me or think I'm weird.

I've always wanted to try dying my hair but I'm too scared, I want to fill my room with my niche weird interests but I'm too scared, I want to try getting tattoos/piercings but I'm too scared. The list goes on and on and I don't want to sound like a pity party "waa waa it's so hard" but I'm just so constantly anxious and scared all the time.

I can only feel comfortable if I'm as unexpressive and vanilla as possible: plain, boring, predictable wearing plain boring supermarket non-brand clothes and a plain boring haircut. I want to be myself but I'm just so scared and as soon as someone gives a different opinion that I should "think about it" before trying something new/different I just get even more anxious.

Can I even fix this or am I hopelessly doomed to be the most boring repressed person ever?