u/Solid_Zombie410

I [35M] have been in the arranged marriage scene for a while now. It is a bit of a topic of banter between my friends and I tend to not take any of the comments seriously. I've believed in sticking to my guns and taking any decision, fully consciously and completely on my own terms and similarly for my partner.

Until the other day, when a friend said something that made me feel like such a loser. She had recently gotten divorced and we were chatting on the topic when she jokingly said "Tu jaldi shaadi kar le. Pata chala meri do ho gayi aur teri ek bhi nahi ho rahi." ("Get married soon. Might turn out to be that I get married twice and you couldn't even get married once")

I'm pretty sure she did not mean to be rude but man that hit me like a literal kick to the nuts and I felt a hollow feeling in my chest. I'm good enough with girls and although not the best looking guy around, I was good with words. I've dated my fair share and have been rejected more than enough but I've never let that bog me down. But what my friend said just brought the past 4-5 years of AM scenes into focus and the whole thing felt like such a failure.

Don't need sympathy. But after 4-5 years of trying to keep it together while everyone and their grandmother felt the need to comment on my marriage, just felt like I needed to vent this time.

TLDR: Been struggling in the AM scene for a while. Have been patient till now. Friend said something that made me feel like a loser.