u/Soggy_Finish2284

Genuinely curious about the majority of monogamous people and how they experience fantasies while in relationships. Is it relational or somatic for you?

I'm a straight woman and I experience desire, attachment, and fidelity as a single unified phenomenon. When I love, my entire erotic and romantic focus is on one man. I cannot fathom dating a person who is technically faithful but still watches porn and has fantasies about other people when I literally have none. I think most people just have fantasies they don't mention​ to partners, which I don't want in my relationship. I'm having a hard time trying to find someone who aligns with me, it is exhausting and I feel like giving up and declaring permanent singlehood at this point. ​​