TL;DR: I started dating my boyfriend mainly because I couldn’t handle him going no-contact, but the relationship has become isolating. He keeps me in a private bubble, avoids integrating social lives, acts possessive in public, and subtly discourages me from seeing others, leaving me feeling loved but cut off and unlike yourself.
I was friends with my current boyfriend for around a year before we started dating. When we were friends we would spend hours together. It seemed normal, we went places, we did activities, we also hung out with other people. However, the months leading up to our relationship, he expressed feelings for me. At the time I couldn't be in a relationship and he would go no-contact. I couldn't deal with his absence and would come back every time. Eventually I agreed to be in a relationship simply because I could not stand his absence.
Now, we've been dating for five months. During these five months, a few repeated issues have arised.
We only ever spend time alone and in his room. We'll occasionally go on dates but it'll just be 2 hours of going out for dinner and we'll go our separate ways or go again, to his room.
I have never once spent time with his friends. He also has zero interest in spending time with mine.
Back when I would bring him around my friends he would fondle me and kiss me in front of them, almost as if he was marking his territory. They found this extremely odd. I too, had to tell him a countless number of times to stop behaving like this in public but he would get offended everytime i told him this. This happened so often that I just stopped ever spending time with him around other people
He would get upset if I didn't see him, regardless of the circumstance. He would also get upset if I spent time with other people. Even though this would be subtle, I would keep picking up on it, to the point where it was easier to just reduce the time I spent with my friends.
I turn into a vegetable around him. I'll be doing nothing, saying nothing, seeing no one else. I'll just be with him. He showers me with love but I feel so isolated.