24F- Looking for a sweet and gentle person :)
Hello beautiful people,
Came across this page and thought I would like to try it out. Let's see how it goes. P.S. This is not an AI generated post. You learn how to write in law school. A lot of good lawyering is knowing how to write in English.
Regarding age, location and why this post:
I am a 24-year-old woman. I am a corporate lawyer based in Bangalore, hoping this might help me meet someone gentle, kind, empathetic, sweet, and calm. If you are based in Bangalore, that would be wonderful, but I am open to anyone across the country. I am looking forward to settle down in Bangalore, so even if you are not currently put up in Bangalore, you should be willing to relocate/settle down in Bangalore.
I also have thoughts of relocating to work in Europe/UK for a few years, I am sharing this beforehand. I am not very sure about this, though, currently.
What am I looking for and why?
I am looking for someone who loves themselves truly and deeply and can love me also truly and deeply (duh! Haha). I am really looking forward to building a safe space where we can both grow together, in life. In my understanding, true love is which inspires to be your best self and propels you forward. It brings calm and this serene stability. I am looking to have a relationship which is filled with this calm, stability, love and joy. It is also my dream to one day create a home where everything is very thoughtfully picked and placed, and the entire space feels warm, peaceful, and welcoming.
My age range is 24 to 32. Height, weight, caste, financial compensation, package, where you went to uni, none of this really matters. Lol. As long as you are a fully functional adult who handles adulting, adult responsibilities and is gentleman, it is fine with me.
More about me:
Regarding Pets:
I love animals and would cherish having pets to care for. Yay.
Regarding children, family and background:
I am childfree, or at most open to adoption. If not parenthood, I would love to support vulnerable children as much as I can throughout my life. My reason for this is that I became adult orphan at the age of 21.Since then, life has brought me incredible people who supported me with immense love and care, helping me reach where I am today. I want to give that same warmth back, to help young children who find themselves in difficult situations build a life of their own.I grew up primarily in north India.
Regarding my personality (this is not self praise, Haha, this is what my closed ones told me about me. I wrote this after speaking to them):
I am a very sensitive person. I get emotional during movies, while reading certain books and also when I see other beings getting hurt. They say I am really nice and sweet. (They are also very nice and sweet, love them). I’ve been told that I am warm and bring joy to people’s lives.
What I like?
This is not an exhaustive list ( If I tell everything, what will you do? As that dialogue says, role kya hai tumhara ( translation: What is your role?)
I think good music, art, cozy environments and kind people soothe my soul. I, also like this peaceful silence that you experience when you are quiet with someone you love and loves you back.
Regarding Spirituality and God:
I believe in God, who to me is a loving, kind, and caring presence. I do not think I subscribe to any religion. Like I read Bhagavad Gita. I fast for all 9 days and read Durgasaptasati. I have also incorporated many principles from Zen, Buddhism, and Sikhism in my life. I am not deeply religious, but my way of living is informed by these philosophies. I do read a lot of philosophy. Like currently, I am reading Nicomachean Ethics.
Regarding drinking and smoking:
I do not drink or smoke, and I do not plan to.
Regarding height, looks and fitness:
I am 5 feet 1 inch tall, tiny, and slightly chubby. I am fairly active. I do yoga and weight training. I would like to make it clear that I have been through exceptionally difficult times and now have some health conditions. I struggle with PCOS and now in intensive treatment. I know I am a bit overweight and my skin is not the best looking at this point. I would have never made this post, if not for my friends, telling me that right person would see through my soul and bodies get better as you take care and get better Healthwise. I love taking care of myself. It makes me happy. You should be into self-love.
Regarding dietary habits:
I am a vegetarian and inclined towards veganism, partly by choice and partly due to medical reasons. Since, diet is an important part of life. I am looking for someone who is a vegetarian or vegan. I have mentioned cooking as my hobby in later section. I am very particular about diet as well and my approach to diet is functional culinary, which means diet which has impeccable taste and also is nutritionally balanced and nourishing. Oh btw, Pick up limes is a youtube channel which has great recipie recommedations.
Regarding education, finances and travelling:
I have received education from tier 1 universities and believe in continued education also. I am financially independent. My financial compensation is running at above 15 lakhs per annum at this point and I more of a homebody, though I do enjoy traveling if everything is well-planned and taken care of basically, a passenger queen. I would love to explore new places if it brings you joy and leads to wonderful experiences together. This applies to any kind of activities. I try to live as frugally as possible, but I do spend on tiny tiny luxuries here and there.
Regarding hobbies:
My hobbies are reading, art, and cooking. I can cook multiple cuisines and mostly make vegan versions of Thai, Italian, Chinese, Indian, Afghani, Greek, Mediterranean, Lebanese, Korean, Japanese, and Mexican dishes. I love learning new ones too.
Regarding response time and work commitments:
I am a busy professional and weekdays are extremely busy. Sometimes weekends also. I will reply to the messages as when time permits. I am really not okay with unsolicited advices regarding my work schedules and whatever. I think it is highly uncalled for. I find balance in my life and my career is important. I am not going to reply to one liner messages and to those who do not reply to the prompt mentioned in the preceding paragraph. :)
Regarding flirting, hookups and initial conversations:
I am not okay with flirting except in a long-term committed relationship. Please do not call me sweetheart, cutie etc. I find it extremely off putting. You could call me smiley though as my username is smilehappy. I am really organised and very particular about time. So, initial couple of conversations would just be related to figuring out whether I see compatibility or not. I think it should be pretty clear, that I am only comfortable with sex and intimacy after I have committed to the relationship. I am not into casual hookups, dating etc. I have secure attachment and you could read up about the way I feel about sexual intimacy in relationships here.
That’s a little about me. If you feel I am someone kind that you would like to get to know more, write a comment on this post letting me know what are the ways you show care and love to the people you cherish? Please also share your detailed background like the way I have done. I think it is pretty clear, since I have put in efforts, efforts matter for me. DMs are not open. I had made this post once before and the DMs route is one of the most inefficient way to go about this. Alternatively, you can send me a mail on smilehappy18@proton.me if you are uncomfortable with sharing your details/post comment. Please make sure you keep your anonymity intact while you choose the email route. Thankyou so much. Please take care. :)