u/SlowAssignments

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Found here: https://nadiabokody.com/authentic-attraction/

One particularly persistent owl likes to insist that men are just violent and they're just harming women in their relationships. While dv is an unfortunate fact, it is not, at all, the answer as to why women simply feel disappointed in their relationships with men. The love simply doesn't exist and you can't conjure it out of thin air.

These types of "I had a perfect marriage but he wasn't enough until I found out I was a lesbian" are extremely common. While I don't think most women are lesbians, these stories demonstrate that you can't satisfy a hunger that isn't looking at you like you are food. And most women don't think of men as food so they are never satisfied with them.

On a side note, I'm constantly surprised by how much time lesbians spend detailing all the thoughts that they have before they figure out they are lesbians and how many documents and surveys (like the master doc and this website, for example) they create specifically aimed at making women question their sexuality. Are gay men just more certain? Are women just naturally more confused? Rates of lesbians/gays are rather similar despite the fact that so much more time has been devoted specifically at making women question their sexuality and almost none towards men.

This is the study in question

I've made this post elsewhere but I saw this graph on Twitter and Tiktok again so why not post it here.

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The remaining 32.6% isn't exclusively male perpetrators, it's mixed male and female. You only need 3% (67.4%+3%) more female perpetrators to match (and slightly surpass) straight women's victimization rates by men. It's not unthinkable that 3% or more of those 32.6% can also be women.

The part of the survey related to the sex of the perpetrators includes only two paragraphs noting:

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No tables, no breakdowns, nothing. Just two paragraphs noting what the authors think is most relevant. It is impossible to know how many lesbians reported women in total, not just exclusively female perpetrators.

Even if the math was all correct, having an almost equal percentage to straight women is not the own they think it is. It still means lesbians are abusing each other at high rates that are completely incongruent with the Duluth model or any other feminist model of domestic violence that presupposes male violence as the only form of domestic violence and all female violence as being done exclusively in self defense. Are lesbians engaging in self defense against male ghosts and accidentally hitting their female partner? It would appear so.

This also doesn't explain why gay men have such low rates of IPV. General crime tends to be male on male, but somehow male on male relationships have the lowest amount of violence? It's not underreporting since most explanations for underreporting should not affect gay men as much as straight men (less knowledge about what counts as abuse, less likelihood to view oneself as victim, less severity of abuse (if we assume all male violence is more serious, as feminists do)...). And considering how bisexual men report even higher rates (mostly by women), the extremely low gay male on male violence in relationships is an important and forgotten outlier.

Bisexual men have a lifetime prevalence rate of ipv of 37.3% with 78.5% reporting only female perpetrators. If you do the math: 37.3%×78.5%≈29.3% of lifetime prevalence of IPV by women against bisexual men, putting bi men among lesbians as equally abused by women. Again, not counting the unreported rates of abuse by women hidden in the remaining 21.5%.

How convenient to leave male victims out of the graph...

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Relevant articles:

How American Dads Became the Parents Their Fathers Never Were

Do Young People Suck?

Women asked for equality; they were given equality. They asked for better men; they were given better men. They asked for better husbands; they were given better husbands. They asked for feminist men; they were given feminist men. They asked for risk-free sex; they were given risk-free sex. They asked for risk-free pregnancy; they were given near risk-free pregnancy. And yet, women have never hated men as much as they do now.

I have heard some objections elsewhere to the framing of relationships, particularly sexual relationships, as a reward for good male behavior. Namely, that framing it this way implies that men are owed sex simply for what should be bare minimum.

1. Here's a simple fact: this is exactly what we were promised. Better male behavior = more willingness of women to have sex. It's a common talking point starting with second-wave feminism that patriarchy is what is poisoning hetero sex and that feminism held the singular opportunity to make it better (often, these feminists would point to bad isolated examples from bonobo primatology, inapplicable to humans, to make their points). This is partially the justification for political lesbianism (and the more recent 4b reincarnation): refusing to engage with men until they get better. Even sex-negative feminists like Andrea Dworkin and Catherine MacKinnon were making these arguments. But men have gotten better, and yet, it's precisely the men that have gotten better that are being punished the most.
2. Here's another fact: society won't exist without sexual relationships. You want your feminist ideology to continue? Start having kids and teaching them feminist ideology. Some feminists seem to have caught wind of this. Expect to hear a lot about maternal and pro-family feminism in the upcoming years. Progressive feminists like Darby Saxbe and Zawn Villines, for example, have already started talking about it, and they seem to be getting fairly popular. Likewise, conservative feminists have also started using the term.
3. Here's yet another fact: women already frame the question of sexual relationships as a matter of reward. Everyone here is already familiar with that pesky natural selection argument. While the argument is self-defeating and improperly named, the argument does frame the question of sexual reproduction and specifically the question of fertility as a matter of women rewarding good men with sex and kids.

Even if none of this was true, it stands to reason that you should expect fertility to increase, have more relationships, and have more sex as women are subject to less abuse, have access to more risk-free sex, have access to more risk-free pregnancies, and have access to better men. Not as a reward to men, but simply because the main complaints that women have that we are told serve as barriers to full free engagement with the other sex are no longer applicable.

And yet, none of that is happening. So guys, it's not your fault. You did what was asked and demanded of you. You followed through with most of their suggestions. You did become better. You are better now than you'd have been a few decades ago as a young man. If you live in the so-called developed world, you are better (by feminist standards) than the undeveloped (so-called under-development) world. And yet, your women have never hated you more. Make of that what you will.

Relevant video discussing a study that found similar conclusions in the Danish population: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-F4qQ1VXX9A

Summary: When men's salaries increase, fertility modestly increases. When women's salaries increase, fertility significantly decreases.

Not only does this reveal women's hypergamy when it comes to men with money, it shows that the overfocus on the pay gap and the overfocus on giving every single benefit to mothers and barring them from fathers is actually pretty bad for fertility.

The tender years doctrine and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. Some people seem to have gotten the idea that women are simply built for parenthood, unlike men. In reality, father involvement in child care is common cross culturaly and tends to result in better outcomes for the child.

This might seem tangential to this sub but I think it shows quite clearly that women don't love men, but they sure love his money. As much as it costs me to say this, Donald Trump was right. When you're a star, they really let you do it. And I do mean "let you", they fully consent to it and will close their legs the moment they get just a tiny bit of power over you.

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Women genuinely don't know what they want. Fascinating.

Take a guess at which sub this comes from.

He and the comments come to the usual annoying conclusion that it's just because "women are shamed for their sexuality" (as if women don't have freedom to make indie games (or literally any media) with sexualised men and as if male sexuality is thoroughly accepted; and somehow gay men have overcome all the straight social conditioning but straight women are incapable of doing that?), "women who speak about their likes are called liars" (women always speak freely about liking taller men, nobody calls them liars for it), "women prefer Loki but men think they prefer Thor" (women prefer the villian? yeah, what else is new?) and so on...

If women actually found men sexually attractive, they would write about it, fawn about it and gravitate towards media that does that and so on. But they don't do that. Instead, their preferred men are rich, tall, do everything for them and are violent/villainous but may protect her from time to time. Either that or it's stories about them going for a younger man and cheating on their husband.

Why is it so hard for these people to accept that women don't actually find the male body attractive outside of his height?

After watching the video in its entirety, most of his sources on male sexualization is other men, particularly gay men. He, himself, recognises this and he, himself, is gay and part of the reason why he is complaining about the lack of male sexualisation is because he also wants more hot men. You can't make this shit up. 😭😭

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Other videos:

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdHSbM5F/

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdHSQc6G/

Her accounts:

https://www.tiktok.com/@claimedandunhinged

https://www.instagram.com/claimedandunhinged

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdHSNc7o/

You either have to accept that women are incredibly easy to manipulate (to the point that social media posts about completely unrelated men harm their relationships) or that those feelings were always there.