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I just graduated with my BS in biology and want to commemorate it somehow. I’ve got an appointment scheduled but have truly no idea what to get. I’m thinking of incorporating DNA, a flask, some flowers, something animal related (zoology concentration), maybe some atoms, viruses, a microscope… I have no idea. If you’ve got one I’d love to see it or just general ideas would be great! I’m either covering my forearm or doing the outer part of my thigh. I thought about winding dna up my thigh or arm and using it as a vine for flowers? I don’t know though. Thoughts?

I know it’s dumb. We’re both medicated and relatively stable! Problem is neither of us really knows what feelings are fully real at any given time. So I can have deep feelings for him one day and then the next day I feel completely platonic. We sleep together and I feel like I’m on a high and then I crash two days later. Granted this is all at a very tumultuous time in my life so I’m already struggling to maintain my sanity. Not a great time for any added drama.

I have no clue what he’s feeling. He wants friendship. He wants to sleep together. He wants a relationship. He doesn’t want a relationship. And I’d say oh he’s stringing me along and being a dick but like… I feel the same way. So I can’t blame him. The only thing we can settle on is we don’t want to lose our friendship. Like he said if sleeping together causes problems then we should stop and just remain platonic. He’s proven that he wants to stay in my life. The feelings are just all over the place.

Has anybody had a relationship, fwb, even friendships with another person with bipolar and made it work? Feels like a disaster waiting to happen in any of those situations. I deeply care about him. But in this case does that mean it might be better to let him go so I don’t catch feelings and hurt both of us??

TLDR: likely need to quit because my boss is becoming more dictator than inspirational leader. Can’t bring myself to because I love love love these kids and nobody else there is trained to teach my things. Not sure what to do…

I’ve been at this studio for 6 years. I’m the only teacher for 2 different styles, but she’s hiring two new people for next year to train under me for when I inevitably move for grad school in a year or two. Students repeatedly tell me they don’t want me to go, a few say they’ll quit if I leave, they’re worried anybody else wouldn’t be as good of a teacher, etc. I love the kids and parents here.

Problem is my boss. We had an amazing personal and professional relationship for years. A few bumps in the road but what work setting doesn’t have those? She had paid for me to get training, let me shadow her for teaching and administrative stuff, taken me to conferences, and given me leadership roles in multiple areas.

However, lately things have been rough to say the least. It’s like something snapped but I don’t know what. Our personal relationship is going out the window. We had a meeting last week where in the same breath she told me she trusts me and believes in me but also listed like 5 things I’ve done wrong… then says she doesn’t watch my classes so doesn’t actually know that to be true. Says she got frustrated that I wanted to change a costume then said she agreed that it needed to be changed. Said she doesn’t want to order more equipment but that she also believes we need it to further education. She said the students manipulate me because I’m young and they can get away with things and that I have too close of a relationship with them where in the past she’s said she loves that I can connect with them. After all this happened she asked me if I want more admin duties… like girl do you want me here or not?

She will randomly snap for no reason then apologize the next day which has been a pattern since I started there. She’ll tell me she trusts me to run with a project and then next week say actually that’s not how I would’ve done it so it’s wrong. Like what I did worked, but it’s not exactly what she would’ve done so it’s wrong. Anyway, lots of things.

More than that is that I had a kid and of course dance is in the evenings when I need a babysitter cause no daycare. I get $23/hour and a babysitter is $15/hour. I can get a job at my university paying $10/hour while the kid is in daycare and net the same that I would at the studio with way less stress.

I feel like I have a lot of reasons to quit. Boss, opportunity to further my actual career, stress, money… I just can’t bring myself to do so. One is because I know she’d panic about getting someone that could teach what I teach. Yes she’s hiring new people but they aren’t trained yet and are fresh out of high school. Two is I’m worried about the students. Having a newer teacher means they’d definitely be upset and likely wouldn’t get as much of a well rounded education (at least the first year or two) since that teacher wouldn’t have my experience and wouldn’t know them.

I don’t know what to do. Help!