I am a 28F, and I have been single since around 2021. Have dated around in London since then, mostly via dating apps and while it was fun first 2 years it is now totally the opposite. Most of my friends are in a rel or at least dating, whereas I have a date here and there but mostly nothing happens after, even if I have 100 plus likes. Many of my friends have met someone in person rather than via dating apps but it seems like it never happens to me - I am social but I feel like the older I am the harder it gets to just spontneously meet a new person and majority of people in my social circle have been the same for years. Nobody speaks to each other spontaneously in a way they do in more southern countries. I am so worried I will remain forever alone.
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I am a 28F, and I have been single since around 2021. Have dated around in London since then, mostly via dating apps and while it was fun first 2 years it is now totally the opposite. Most of my friends are in a rel or at least dating, whereas I have a date here and there but mostly nothing happens after, even if I have 100 plus likes. Many of my friends have met someone in person rather than via dating apps but it seems like it never happens to me - I am social but I feel like the older I am the harder it gets to just spontneously meet a new person and majority of people in my social circle have been the same for years. Nobody speaks to each other spontaneously in a way they do in more southern countries. I am so worried I will remain forever alone.
I have been living in a great flat in London, owned by my friend, for the past few months. It has solved my anxiety and I feel SO much better than before - it is totally quiet, faces greenery (our views everywhere are 360 only green tall trees with bird sounds everywhere), it is modern, spacious, light, from a boutique developer and was only built a few months ago. Have my own large bathroom too. I know I'll only go downhill from this wherever I move, I so far have agreed to rent for one year, maybe a bit longer. Depends on both of our circumstances, I am a 28F and my flatmate is the same age. But because I don't own the place, I know I'll need to leave ONE DAY. I am just so worried (even though I dont have to be rn) about going back to the rental crisis and having to find a new flat, which might have mice, be mouldy, super cold, or loud, or flatmates will be bad. Rn my situation is beyond ideal and I'd happily live here forever, but that is not realistic. The only 'downside' is that it is in zone 2 - still close to stuff but south east london, and there are not too many cafes or cool places around, not much community, which I love... but materially it is great. How not to get attached to a temporary place and temporary safety?
I have been living in a great flat in London, owned by my friend, for the past few months. It has solved my anxiety and I feel SO much better than before - it is totally quiet, faces greenery (our views everywhere are 360 only green tall trees with bird sounds everywhere), it is modern, spacious, light, from a boutique developer and was only built a few months ago. Have my own large bathroom too. I know I'll only go downhill from this wherever I move, I so far have agreed to rent for one year, maybe a bit longer. Depends on both of our circumstances, I am a 28F and my flatmate is the same age. But because I don't own the place, I know I'll need to leave ONE DAY. I am just so worried (even though I dont have to be rn) about going back to the rental crisis and having to find a new flat, which might have mice, be mouldy, super cold, or loud, or flatmates will be bad. Rn my situation is beyond ideal and I'd happily live here forever, but that is not realistic. The only 'downside' is that it is in zone 2 - still close to stuff but south east london, and there are not too many cafes or cool places around, not much community, which I love... but materially it is great. How not to get attached to a temporary place and temporary safety?