u/SillyLiving3783

i 24F still have a “friendship” with my ex boyfriend 31M.

we dated for a year and broke up when it got too real for him. he cheated multiple times throughout the relationship. his mom publicly humiliated me, i met all of his family and he met mine. everytime i would catch him cheating i still stayed…exposed me to potential stds and he did not care no matter how much i cried…only did he really realize in the end what he was doing and told me his therapist said he had groomed me. i lost around 45 pounds during that relationship, i always felt like i had to compete with random people on the internet and that was never enough…my therapist said i stayed so long because i felt bad for him and was trying to help him during a tough time in his life. which i believe is true, but i also friend and extreme attachment to him, and he knows that. we see eachother every week at least once in person , still text good morning and goodnight and i loves yous every day. when we see eachother in person we always end up having sex, so it feels like we’re dating without the label and it’s crushing me. he always said he felt like i had moved on too fast in the relationship and he felt pressured to marry me which is what lead him to cheat on me. we lived together a few months after my parents kicked me out and that’s when his mood got worse. i do appreciate him letting me stay with him, but i feel like im hurting myself by continuing to be in this push and pull “friendship”, i want to encourage him to do his best, but it crushes me to feel like i was just a stepping stone to him.

i 24F still have a “friendship” with my ex boyfriend 31M.

we dated for a year and broke up when it got too real for him. he cheated multiple times throughout the relationship. his mom publicly humiliated me, i met all of his family and he met mine. everytime i would catch him cheating i still stayed…exposed me to potential stds and he did not care no matter how much i cried…only did he really realize in the end what he was doing and told me his therapist said he had groomed me. i lost around 45 pounds during that relationship, i always felt like i had to compete with random people on the internet and that was never enough…my therapist said i stayed so long because i felt bad for him and was trying to help him during a tough time in his life. which i believe is true, but i also friend and extreme attachment to him, and he knows that. we see eachother every week at least once in person , still text good morning and goodnight and i loves yous every day. when we see eachother in person we always end up having sex, so it feels like we’re dating without the label and it’s crushing me. he always said he felt like i had moved on too fast in the relationship and he felt pressured to marry me which is what lead him to cheat on me. we lived together a few months after my parents kicked me out and that’s when his mood got worse. i do appreciate him letting me stay with him, but i feel like im hurting myself by continuing to be in this push and pull “friendship”, i want to encourage him to do his best, but it crushes me to feel like i was just a stepping stone to him.

i 24F still have a “friendship” with my ex boyfriend 31M.

we dated for a year and broke up when it got too real for him. he cheated multiple times throughout the relationship. his mom publicly humiliated me, i met all of his family and he met mine. everytime i would catch him cheating i still stayed…exposed me to potential stds and he did not care no matter how much i cried…only did he really realize in the end what he was doing and told me his therapist said he had groomed me. i lost around 45 pounds during that relationship, i always felt like i had to compete with random people on the internet and that was never enough…my therapist said i stayed so long because i felt bad for him and was trying to help him during a tough time in his life. which i believe is true, but i also friend and extreme attachment to him, and he knows that. we see eachother every week at least once in person , still text good morning and goodnight and i loves yous every day. when we see eachother in person we always end up having sex, so it feels like we’re dating without the label and it’s crushing me. he always said he felt like i had moved on too fast in the relationship and he felt pressured to marry me which is what lead him to cheat on me. we lived together a few months after my parents kicked me out and that’s when his mood got worse. i do appreciate him letting me stay with him, but i feel like im hurting myself by continuing to be in this push and pull “friendship”, i want to encourage him to do his best, but it crushes me to feel like i was just a stepping stone to him.