Parents are starting to hate my wife
I(26M) got married a little less than a year ago to a wonderful woman(24F) who is way too good for me. At that time my parents were either extremely happy and approved of her wholeheartedly or faked their joy.
For context, my parents are very narcissistic and transactional love type of people. I am a constant bragging point for them to use against their family and friends. Rather than see me as their son they see me as a trophy they can tout around. I knew there would be issues of some sort regarding my wife vs my parents and I warned my wife about it as well. A year in they have already gotten to the point where they constantly lecture and criticize my wife for every little thing she does.
I was at the tail end of med school so I ended up having to do some rotations in different states and decided that for one of the rotations we could spend time in our home city at my parents home and hangout with our respective families. My rotations were extremely busy and I would leave around 4 AM and often return around 6 PM. During this time my wife was looking for her own job. I had hoped that they would behave themselves while we were both working on our individual careers but they had other plans.
This month has now led to my wife resenting my parents to a massive degree. They would constantly criticize her throughout her time there and would often brag about my “future earning potential” as a doctor, saying that her looking for a job is useless. They also tried some of her cooking but were extremely disappointed for one fake reason or another. This all happened while I was not home so I never saw what occurred while I was out and my wife didn’t mention anything until we left. They also blatantly brought up these issues to my in-laws during a get together as well as forbade her from seeing them for more than a couple hours. When she did actually spend time with them, my parents would constantly blow up her phone with “when are you coming back” or “don’t stay too long” texts.
It has become apparent that my parents would like nothing to do with my wife, see her as some sort of servant for themselves or me instead of my life partner, and actively choose not to include her in family gatherings and activities. I have begun trying to limit contact with them due to their blatant mistreatment of my wife and essentially thinking of her as lesser.
I don’t know how to move forward and if we will ever have a normal relationship with them. Anyone have any experience if this ever gets better with time?