u/Shot_Dish6444

Salam everyone, hope you are genuinely doing well.

Just had a quick question about tawakkul. I trust God completely, I know with my full heart, soul and being everything will work out for me in every way. It may not be in a way that I understand just yet (or i may never understand and thats okay too, as its impossible for me to fully understand what Allah is planning), but I trust Allah's infinite wisdom.

But sometimes I can still be in pain/discomfort/struggling and i try to put a smile on my face and heart, as I know its all according to Allah's plan. But sometimes i feel like its hard to do so.

I used to believe that someone with full Tawakkul would even be happy even if bad things were happening to them, because they see right through it. But recently tbh i find myself changing this belief, I'm now feeling its okay to feel sad or unhappy and all of that jazz even if i know things will turn out perfect. Because im a human being and having those emotions are completely natural. And that doesn't take away from my full Yaqeen in Allah.

So I wanted to ask on what you thought, is this the right way to view things? Should it be better to deal with our emotions in a different way, if so how? Is it even possible to develop Tawakkul to the level of finding joy even in hardships?

Like i know logically that it will be okay, but some times my heart finds it hard to smile all the time during a struggle. I have times where i could, i've had times in my life where literally nothing could bother me. I'm in 2 minds, of whether i should continue to strive for that state, or adopt a mental model that holds spaces for realistic acceptance of my emotions.

I hope my waffle question made sense, let me know what you think

Jazakhallah

Salam everyone, I really do hope you all are doing well. Just wanted to preface this by saying I’m going to try be as honest/vulnerable as possible as I'd really show who i really am rather than hide my flaws, its what makes me me.

Trusting Allahs word

While I’m literally writing this, this is the exact thought in my head:

“i actually cant even finish writing this. I’ve got pretty much nothing going for me, how is this even going to work. im going to have to do a lot of work first then I’ll come back and try get married.”

And I do honestly believe this. However at the same time I do want to get married because by the time i am successful if Allah wills it, it will be potentially years down the line. But the thing is my main objective is to worship God, and He told me to get married early to avoid sin. Is it really worth waiting a few years? 

The answer to that for me is no, Allah with His Infinite wisdom, will never tell me to do something that is wrong for me. 

And i understand my ego will say “theres no point, people will never respect you without money” which is true and realistically shaytan has played a very cunning game creating this society to go against God’s wishes. But despite what my ego and shaytan say I still want to at least try getting married, so I can worship God by doing my part on acting on what He said. 

And realistically I am not desperate to get married and would rather have more time to build myself. But tbh at night, sometimes I feel guilty at myself. As I feel like I’m going against God by not getting married young and completing half my deen. Which is why I wanted to send my profile, so I can at least feel like I’ve done something.

From the top to "broke"

Anyway, Im getting bored of writing, so lets move on. The reason i write broke in the title, is because i have no money lol. I’m not really proud of talking about this part as its kind of embarrassing to admit as a guy (but idc this is all me).

But to keep it brief. I’ve always been a shy, sweet, sensitive and crybaby (and pushover) kid. I was “heavlily persuaded” to pursue medicine as a child. Its not something i wanted to do, but i didn’t want to let my parents down and i honestly lacked a lot of backbone in those ages so I just did as i was told. I ended up studying medicine at the best university in the UK. 

Despite getting great grads, being respected, getting rishta offers and my future was stable, things must of been great. But truth be told i hated it and was extremely depressed.

I hated medicine but i didn’t leave bc to do so i would have to face the fact that I’ve been a spineless coward for so long. I would rather try to force myself to like medicine, so that i could pretend that I’m living the life of my own design. Until one day, I finally grew a pair and finally made the step to leave and pursue what i actually wanted. 

I took a gap year, and took time to work in private healthcare, to save enough buffer money to finally living my dream of having my own charity helping 1 Million people in poverty (7 helped so far lol). And this is where I’m at now. 23 and "broke".

And tbh a lot of people have told me repeatedly “i should of never left” “think about the money" etc. But tbh i really did think about it and honestly i’ve never really cared a lot about money and getting rich. It matters more to me to work hard and help people with all i have, and I know Allah will provide for me like He always has. I've already proven to myself that I'm beyond capable and I've been working hard everyday to be able help people in a way that suits me. I dream of a life where I am paid to help people and be a kind muslim. I will make that a reality God willing.

Anyway thats enough wishy washy stuff, i cba anymore haha i’ve been typing for 40 mins straight, heres my profile i made ages ago. Allahafiz

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Place of Birth/Residence: United Kingdom

Nationality: British

Marital Status: Single, Never married

Education: Medical Science (Bsc Hons)

Height: 6ft 2

Hijab: Wears hijab 

Partner Preferences: Warm hearted Muslim girl who loves to follow the deen to join our family. Who lives in the UK or nearby

Preferably Pakistani but open to new cultures

Additional info:

“Honestly I am not a perfect person, not by any means. But I try my best to be the best Muslim I can and to emulate Imam Ali (as) and the AhlulBayt (as) as best as I can. 

I would love to find someone who shares this love in their heart. Where we can follow them and improve together realistically and authentically. To build a relationship with mutual respect and shared laughs.

This dunya is important to me but is by no means my no 1 priority. I would love to live this life with humility, avoiding extravagance and excess. I try my best to walk the straight path even if it’s a bit lonely and unconventional. I would love to find someone who shares this value.

Hobbies/interests: Annoying my brothers, Gym wrestling, reading and a little smidge of anime

Oath:

I testify in the name of Allah Almighty that all the information I have provided on this form.

Salam, everyone hope you are doing very well IA, enjoying the long awaited sun in the UK! I am new to this reddit thing but wanted to share my brothers profile as he is looking to get married! How exciting, anyway here is profile down below:

Age: 28M

Nationality: British

Location: United Kingdom

Height: 6"2

Family Background: Syed Shia Naqvi

Marital Status: Single (Never Married)

Ethnicity: Pakistani

Languages Spoken: English, Urdu

Disability: None

Education: Master’s in Chemical Engineering

UK Spouse Only: Yes

Interests: He loves reading, travelling and going gym

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I just copied his profile. Let me know if you're interested!

P.S. Also wanted to say, i know how hard it can be finding a spouse you gel with. May Allah bless every single one of you, and may He grant you what you are looking for Ameen. I believe in you, you got this!