u/Senior_Trick_7473

I have taken a step back from being friends with one of my closest and longest friendships (20 plus years). Our friend group is also very close and I’ve also known most of them since grade school (I’m in my mid thirties).

This friend, let’s call her Amy. Amy is an only child and she has great parents but her parents have babies her for a long long time, and still do to this day. She has been moody ever since I’ve know her. Throwing fits, pouting in the corner, making everything her way.

But now, it has gotten worse. She gets mad over the littlest things. For example, we were at a show and I was in line to get drinks and thought I’d grab her a water. When I gave her the water she screamed at me because she hated that water brand. She’s also extremely rude to wait staff. She doesn’t make eye contact with them and mumbles so when they ask her to repeat she says it back in a condescending way. So that makes me not want to be associated with that. I lived with her in college and she would slam doors and throw her laptop in a fit of rage.

Recently my girlfriends and I were video chatting and her and I got into a debate about something stupid. She was getting agitated so I said “ok sounds like you’re getting mad let’s just move on”. Clearly the wrong move but she blew up at me and mocked me.

After that I decided that I’m going to take a step back and not hang out with her in small group or one on one settings. She never apologized, but she reached out to me today to clear the air. Mind you, this blowup happened in December. I told her what she did was wrong and that her constant mood swing make me uncomfortable. She then asked for some examples of her mood swings because she couldn’t recall any which was MIND BLOWING because we just got back from a friends trip and she had at least 6 fits on that trip alone. So I gave her a list of examples and I’m waiting for her reply.

The thing is, Amy has thyroid issues, and is on medication that makes her mood swings worse (adderall). She just blames it on that and doesn’t apologize.

All of our friends are on the same page and are all fed up at this point. It’s hard to be direct with her because she will just blow up. People have had small talks with her but nothing has changed.

I don’t know what to do at this point but taking a step away from her has really helped my mental health.

Just past by a large fire near Broadview. Anyone know what’s going on? Couldn’t get a picture.