u/Sea_You0131

My friend [31F] and her BF [31M] were dating since pandemic days and are already planning to get married next year. During those 5years, she was introduced to the BF's close friends, but never introduced to the family, not until last December.

This January, she found out that the ex-GF has been secretly going to her BF's family gathering and has been meeting up with her BF too without her knowledge.

She discovered this when she randomly see a "favorite contact (ex-GF)" in her BF's phone, and photos with the ex-GF in his phone. I know my friend doesn't check partner's phone 'cause she hates the idea that it shows "no trust". But the very first time in 5 years that she had a feeling to randomly do it, she found out that the ex-GF and her BF have been meeting randomly for the last 5 years, with photos on his phone!

In BF's defense, the ex-GF was consistently being invited by his family. But since now that my friend has been introduced to the guy's family this January, they might (hopefully) actually stop inviting the ex moving forward. No excuses, there were photos of them so close to each other, photos not in the family gathering, and even a license of the ex-GF inside the BF's car!

I feel bad about my friend. All this time, I thought she'd leave if this would happen to her. But she chose to stay. They are trying to fix it, but she still hasn't recovered from the damage the BF did.

Aside from comforting words and keeping her busy when she's thinking about it, how else can I help her to recover from this microcheating her BF did to her?

tl;dr: BF secretly seeing ex-GF the entire 5-year relationship