u/Sea_Point_2019

I had a brief relationship with a woman a while back. Recently she found me on a dating app and then we starting talking again. I haven’t told my wife about these interactions yet as I am unsure where to even go with this. Our relationship was toxic and problematic. She had bpd and high anxiety. Looking back I see how manipulative she was especially when those I dating before, during and after her had lead me to believe she has a lot of insecurities . It’s been a couple of years and I don’t know if I should give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s changed. I also know she will love bomb so I want to be cautious. Maybe it’s because I have had a break on dating for a little while that I’m even considering it. I’m enjoying her chats but she’ll get NRE very quickly (she started talking about wanting to be included in our family events within the first month and was pushing me and my wife into kitchen table which does not work for us. ) so I am
Even uncertain about friendship. I am just confused and seeing if anybody else has been in this situation.